How is your dating/relationship life?

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I'm a woman and am in a relationship with another aspie woman. Usually everything is ok, but sometimes when we're both overloaded there can be fights over nothing. It took it's time to get to understand each other's routines, special interests etc, but now everything is fine

I'd rather live the life of a man, than be with a man.

I voted "I'M A MAN. I am single, and I do experience chronic dating problems, which might be AS-related."

yet I dont strongly identify as manly man... and am asexual: which is actually my primary dating problem (since dating situations that dont lead to sex tend to end and as a result relationships dont really seem worth it)

However...

I do suspect that some of my asexuality is associated with Aspergers like disinterest in connecting emotionally to people the way that everyone else assumes that the whole world is supposed to...

So when I have tried in the past, yeah I have had problems... but I don't try because its not really something I want.

I am a male an at least have a dating life. I chose in relationship and used to have problems because it matched me best. I'm in a relationship and still have problems, they're mostly me and fixable but they are still problems.

I am a woman who has been divorced twice. I have not been able to find someone who can put up with my basic neurotics longer than a few years. I am called cold, uncaring, controlling, a poor communicator,extremely OCD, childish, a liar, unwilling to change, a loser, friendless and lazy. I believe most all of those have something to do with AS.

As far as dating is concerned, I'm pretty useless!

I talk to quite a few girls who i would genuinely consider to be my friends. There is one that I fancy at the moment and we get on fairly well, but recently our conversations have been cut short due to my inability to think of a topic that would be appropriate to that particular situation or time. I feel so boring because I more or less say the same thing to her every time that i see her so I better start getting creative lol.

But I'm not losing hope because I'm sure that somewhere out there is a girl who I'm destined to be with and who will understand. In the meantime, I will learn how to become more interesting in regards to conversation haha.

Where is the option for...

I am a man, and I do not want to be in relationships full stop?

How do you answer for "I have a steady relationship, but there are problems in the relationship because of my autism?"

I didn't have issues before my relationship, because I had no interest in dating before my relationship. We even skipped the "dating" step with the two of us. If I were someone who wanted to find people to be involved with, rather than someone who's demisexual, demiromantic, and doesn't understand seeking out relationships, then I'd have problems, but I'm not. Who I am hasn't had problems in having or keeping a relationship, because having problems would require having interest in the first place.

I'm a man and had catastrophic dating problems until I was nearly 34, in the sense that I didn't have the faintest idea how to find a partner, not a clue, despite being otherwise intelligent. In fact I had no idea how to even get a date. In the end someone came up to me and we saw each other for 3 years after that. Then there was another huge gap of ten years. Now I have a long-term (10 years) platonic relationship with someone else although my partner and I live in separate apartments. Apart from on Wrong Planet I've never met anyone who took so long to find a first partner as me,; it was amazing (in a bad way), such a long, long, long, long lonely time. It is hard work sustaining a relationship but I do it because I don't want to be alone.

Single. Have barely had anything you could call a relationship, and none of those that I've had ever turned out well. Product of a world that's all about possessions and expectations and relying on external factors to make one happy. Wanting others to support me and having to jump through hoops in return hasn't gotten anybody anywhere.

It's not an entirely new concept to me, but I suppose with this class about soft skills and finding a job, some of the same things can be applied to finding someone or life in general. Allowing yourself to get stressed over every little thing only narrows your point of view and then you really can't see things too clearly. Focusing more on what kind of job you'd fit or who you would go well with, rather than what you want or need, will probably get you a lot farther.

I'm a woman who is engaged to someone with Aspie traits, but I've had problems in the past, including being in an abusive relationship with an NT who would have used my diagnosis against me if I was diagnosed when with him.

I've actually lucked out a bit when it comes to a relationship, in a way. I'm an aspie. I've never been good at dating, because I've always been awkward around people until I get to know them well, so first dates generally don't go very well. And I've also been a bit too needy or clingy in the past, which isn't a problem any more fortunately.

However, I do have a friend who I've known for about nine years. She and I have been best friends since high school, and we're about as close as anyone could hope to be as friends. Recently she became single again (long story), and I suggested we start going out, since I've sort of had a thing for her for a while but didn't want to interfere with her previous relationship. She said she's not ready to jump into another relationship quite yet (bad experiences from being in a bad relationship for about 10 years), and wants some space. But I'm there for her, we still hang out as friends, and I'm confident she'll be open to a relationship between us once she's had a bit of air after being in a relationship for so long. But even if not, I'm not going to let anything threaten the friendship we have now because I know she's probably the best friend I can hope to find in this world, even if I didn't have AS.