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11 Apr 2012, 8:13 pm

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I can relate to most of this. I don't have much trouble saying most of these things, but they do make me a bit uncomfortable.

I hate calling people I don't know really well by name.

Me too. Part of it is an irrational worry that I won't remember their name correctly, even if I know it(generally, I'm terrible with names), and part of it is just feeling uncomfortable.



Me too! That is a big part of the reason I hate it!



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11 Apr 2012, 8:15 pm

I dislike saying the word "healthy" in regards to mental health or things that have nothing do with health at all. I have noticed that people sometimes say "that's not a healthy way of doing that!" when actually, it's not unhealthy, it a different way of doing it that the person has decided they dislike or it's socially unacceptable, but not "unhealthy".

I noticed this was a trend a few year ago, I don't notice it as much now.


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11 Apr 2012, 8:24 pm

UnLoser wrote:
VeggieGirl wrote:
I hate calling people I don't know really well by name.


Me too. Part of it is an irrational worry that I won't remember their name correctly, even if I know it(generally, I'm terrible with names), and part of it is just feeling uncomfortable.


This is 100% me! I avoid names of people I don't know very well because sometimes I honestly have trouble recognizing them. Also, high-stakes names like family members get avoided, because in the off chance that I do confuse them then the consequences would be much greater.

I also cannot say the following:

"brewery"
"play the prelude"



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11 Apr 2012, 8:39 pm

When I work at a new job I will sometimes forget someone's name at first or call a person by the wrong name. I like to wait a few weeks or more until the names of most everyone I work with become more familiar and then I feel more comfortable saying a co-worker's name. In the past few month's I was embarassed due to calling two different co-workers by the wrong name. When I say "I love you" to someone I find it easier to say on the phone and I am not sure why. :?


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12 Apr 2012, 8:46 am

I hate it when people ask me "How are you?" or "How've you been?" because I'm never sure if they're actually asking, or just using it instead of "Hello"... and I usually end up saying "Hello" as a response and probably look stupid. I know I'm probably meant to say "Good, you?" but it just never comes out, my mind goes blank.



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12 Apr 2012, 8:49 am

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What words are you unable to say?


i can not say "xdyihzlmpnqudy"



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12 Apr 2012, 9:22 am

WanderingDeer wrote:
I hate it when people ask me "How are you?" or "How've you been?" because I'm never sure if they're actually asking, or just using it instead of "Hello"... and I usually end up saying "Hello" as a response and probably look stupid. I know I'm probably meant to say "Good, you?" but it just never comes out, my mind goes blank.


I do that, too.

I am nearly incapable of saying "nice to meet you." If someone tells me it was nice to meet you I usually end up having a minor panic, then responding with "yes."



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12 Apr 2012, 9:29 am

I absolutely do not like introducing myself. I never do it. People just call me "that lady," because I never tell them my name.



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12 Apr 2012, 7:08 pm

VeggieGirl wrote:
UnLoser wrote:
I can relate to most of this. I don't have much trouble saying most of these things, but they do make me a bit uncomfortable.

I hate calling people I don't know really well by name.

Me too. Part of it is an irrational worry that I won't remember their name correctly, even if I know it(generally, I'm terrible with names), and part of it is just feeling uncomfortable.



Me too! That is a big part of the reason I hate it!


Me too.



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12 Apr 2012, 8:19 pm

WanderingDeer wrote:
I hate it when people ask me "How are you?" or "How've you been?" because I'm never sure if they're actually asking, or just using it instead of "Hello"


Both. They don't usually care about how you actually are feeling, but they do expect you to respond to the question.



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12 Apr 2012, 11:34 pm

VeggieGirl wrote:
I hate calling people I don't know really well by name.


I'm the same way!



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24 Apr 2012, 9:18 am

I have trouble saying things that I think are inaccurate. I have learned to say them anyway, since it is considered good manners, but I "wince" mentally when I do.
For example, when asked "how are you?", the other person is simply greeting me and expects the response "good, how are you?", regardless of how miserable I might be. It's like being the opposite of a pathological liar.


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24 Apr 2012, 9:25 am

I had speech therapy to correct tongue thrust, so I can say all words now.



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24 Apr 2012, 8:02 pm

I agree with everything the OP said and most things commonly suggested. I only skimme it but I'm not sure if names were said yet. I hate saying people's names, I hate my name. I usually do second person or make sure people know I'm talking to them.



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24 Apr 2012, 8:02 pm

I agree with everything the OP said and most things commonly suggested. I only skimme it but I'm not sure if names were said yet. I hate saying people's names, I hate my name. I usually do second person or make sure people know I'm talking to them.



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24 Apr 2012, 8:39 pm

"Thank you for the [insert gift here]" - I always feel weird when people give me things; I never know how to react.