Is Barking an acceptable defense mechanisim?

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25 Apr 2012, 12:05 pm

bnky wrote:

growling's a bit more acceptable than barking.
For that matter barking may be MORE unaccepted than mild swearing.
At work it'd be better to just firmly tell others that you're very busy and need to concentrate without distractions for a while. When they come back after a while you could say the same again . After a few times they'll probably give up.

Id try telling them I am busy, and then if they bother me again I think it would be great to bark at them, that might work...and if they don't go away then I would growl to.

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25 Apr 2012, 12:11 pm

I wonder why people find such things so unacceptable....yet they can tolerate what's on the radio?

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25 Apr 2012, 1:39 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:

I wonder why people find such things so unacceptable....yet they can tolerate what's on the radio?

Tunes they hearing in, so the able to listen? I just give the eagle eye.

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25 Apr 2012, 2:14 pm

I have a tendency to growl when angered/frustrated.

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25 Apr 2012, 2:17 pm

TechnoDog wrote:

Sweetleaf wrote:

I wonder why people find such things so unacceptable....yet they can tolerate what's on the radio?

Tunes they hearing in, so the able to listen? I just give the eagle eye.

Well todays popular music is :eew:

I would much rather hear someone imitating animal sounds.

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25 Apr 2012, 3:53 pm

No, that's clearly not socially acceptable. Swearing is not acceptable either, but at least it doesn't make one look like crazy in society's eyes. It's better to try and find out another way to cope with the situation than doing this. People don't understand stimming, which is easier to understand actually, so there's no chance they'll understand barking...

To be honest, if I for one saw somebody stimming, I'd think: hey, there goes another Aspie or somebody with ADHD, just like me... But if I met somebody barking at me, I probably would not think about Asperger's first, I'd fear that the other person has lost his mind.

Please dont' get offended at me for saying this. I know you're not crazy, but I'm trying to tell you that no, it is not acceptable and it would be best to channel the anger and the frustration into another behavior. You definitely don't deserve to be treated badly by the other people because of this. Or to run the risk of losing your job...

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25 Apr 2012, 5:22 pm

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I strongly suggest you stop with the really weird behavior in public. If you don't you will probably lose your job, and you might even be carted off for an in patient stay for a mental evaluation.

How about just telling people that you work better when left alone.? Or just tell them that you need to be alone for a while. Or if someone is kind of getting in your face, just tell them to back off. But for your own sake ditch the really weird stuff, and find some type of inoffensive, and not real obvious stim, too.

I forgot to mention I don't work there anymore, ha ha. Our fourth new store manager bullied me for 2 weeks until I quit in disgust. He also bullied the other learning-disabled employees for fun.
Seems like, at least for me, when I tell somebody I want to be left alone at work, IF its a male they leave me alone, but if its a female they make it escalate into a fight. Then I have to deal with them being mad at me for telling them to leave me alone, like I have no right to ask. This is in the american south,in Florida, not sure how it works culturally elsewhere. A female don't like being told by another female to GO AWAY, apparently.

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25 Apr 2012, 5:29 pm

Steven_Tyler77 wrote:

He he, been there done that. I don't get offended by constructive criticisim, only that which is mean-spirited or punitive, like my ex-boss saying "you're slow! And slow people get their hours cut!" He wasn't kidding.

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25 Apr 2012, 5:34 pm

jetbuilder wrote:

Wow, I thought I was alone when it came to growling. I used to do it all the time. Now it's only when playing with the dog

I have always made animal noises, some, i've been told, are shockingly realistic!
I once convinced someone there was a real goose in the other room! lol

Oh god. Once when I was in high school, we were out driving around and I stuck my head out of my friends car window and did this Yoko Ono scream yell which sounded like a siren. I PULLED OVER A CAR!! !! hahahahahahaaa you should have seen their face. I only did this once, btw.

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25 Apr 2012, 5:44 pm

Depends on if you have the personality where people would take you either seriously or in jest.

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25 Apr 2012, 5:51 pm

As a young teen I barked and howled rather than talking - not as a defence mechanism as such as it wasn't used when I was annoyed or upset, more to do with the fact I didn't know how to have conversations with people. As an adult my barking has been replaced with a girly childish voice on occasion, my best friend goes MENTAL at me for "dumbing down" when I do this, but I think it remains something I fall back on when I'm struggling to talk to people.

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