do aspies have less patience with other people?

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The amount of patience I have depends on the day. Generally speaking though, I have very little patience. I seek efficiency in most things I do, so that makes it worse.

Month to month and year to year I've had various amounts of patience - it hasn't gotten better or worse with age, but again I'm only 23.

I'm becoming less patient with age. I'm less tolerant of BS and classify more things as BS. Other people's behaviour, especially that revolving around mobile phones, drives me up the wall.

Maybe I was born with a limited amount of patience and used most of it in my first 30-odd years. Or maybe it's because I'm getting confident enough to feel like I'm allowed to be annoyed by things.

I rarely show my irritation, but eventually it comes out, somehow.

I'm pretty good at concealing my impatience. I was going to a Zumba party with my friend and her sister, who stays on the other side of the city. I went to my friend's house at the time we had arranged, to find her sister hadn't arrived yet. No worries, she'll be here soon, I thought, even though punctuality is a must for me. As time went on, my breathing quickened. Eventually, she arrived and said she still had to iron her work-out clothes. So there I was, panic attack looming, as we waited for the iron to heat up. But, I somehow managed to just sit there, looking like everything was fine. We arrived at the party seconds before it started.

I have a hard time listening or caring about what others are telling me in a convo but I think its a kinda mutual thing. Or well, I feel that way. I always feel like people don't care when I say stuff.

Its been so long since I've been out, in say, a classroom setting, but TONS of stuff will annoy me to the point of nearly melting down, here is the list:

1. Talking while the teacher is lecturing
2. Mp3 player/ipod playing loud enough for me to hear
3. Whispering and giggling.
4. When someone uses fruit spray (dunno what its called, the cheap s**t)
5. When someone raises his or her hand to share a story with the teacher. This always makes me very uncomfortable and I just want the person to shut the hell up.
6. When people interject their "irrelevant" opinion, not a real meaningful one but something met to be funny or cute.
7. When there is a very attractive perfect looking dude.
8. When there is a very attractive looking girl.


8 will make ruin a class for me, my gut will go into spasms and I'll usually go home and cut myself to cope. This hasn't happened in about 3 years but it makes me very scared. Isn't it ironic that someone who is so obsessive about facial beauty and traits to an obnoxious/creepy level on this forum is physically mortified of it in real life? I don't even get butterflies, I get SCARED.