Ignoring People

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talk in person > talk on phone > type stuff
makes sense, Olive, take time

Yes, I often do that.

I am desperate for people to invite me to things or be my friend.

Now that my wife is gone for a week and half at a time, I've forced myself to go out in public more because the boredom/loneliness is crushing me.

I managed to play some tennis today with another PERSON! It used to be a *primary focus* of mine, but when I had to move to another city 7 years ago, I haven't been able to establish good connections/friends. It is a small wonder I met my wife through a blind date-and it has been a great marriage so far.

My number one most aggravating feeling these days is that life is just going on without me being part of it. I try to do helpful things for people, but I often just end up getting used-and there is no friendship formed besides *what I can do for them*.

I think moving to this city was a mistake...I actually had a few connections I made in my old city...and then I had to start over.

i used to wear earplugs so i wouldn't have to hear thousands of conversations at once. and i went and lost them.

as i assume most people do, i'l avoid someone i know from school or something when i'm out downtown. unless i've been meaning to tell them something, in which case ill ignore them less i suppose.

I try to do not ignore anyone. I know how bad it feels to be ignored so i try my best to never ignore no one.
When i don't want to hang out/talk with anyone i prefer to turn off my phone and do not log in into any chat/social thing where someone would notice me, since i don't like to lie to them either.

I can't stand being ignored. I think it is one of the rudest possible things to do to someone without explanation.

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Unapologetically, Norny.
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I seem to suffer from anxiety regarding these things, so its easier to avoid it than to deal with it. Like if I g an email from my mother in law I tend to not respond. Same with my sister in law. They are both very dramatic. I never know their intentions or how tey'll respond, so I jsu ignore them, which I guess can be even worse.

If it's "business" I'm ok. So things like doctors appointments and work are ok. But if I get anfrom a parent of one of the girls in my girl scout troop? I pass that to my coleaders. They know I have issues and are good people.

Even my brother, anyone calling. I let it go to voice mail. I may or may not call them back.

My daughter is hard pressed to return "hello" or "Goodbye" I asked her why. She said "It's no important. When someone is walking away from you it's obvious they are going some place else. " She also hates the phone. She has zero desire to send emails or get on forums so far. She has her interests and feels no need, at all, to share or communicate with others...Her psych syas that at this stage, this is a good thing. she had a deep need for friends at her age, she'd just be in for a lot of heart break. Her social skills are not good and kids at her age are very cliquey and judgemental. She's better off with her head in the clouds.

I tend to completely ignore people who approach me in the street. I know it's rude but engaging with people costs me effort and walking through Central London you will be approached dozens of times a day by beggars, people doing surveys, Big Issue sellers, people wanting directions and so on.

Some of these people have been offended by my behaviour and have had a go at me but I didn't ask for the interaction.