Ever been disappointed by a special interest?

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Thanks for your responses everyone, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has been let down by something that meant a lot to them.

I knew it was a huge gamble getting all hyped up about a movie that I hadn't even seen yet, but I figured, "hey, I became obsessed with 4 out of 7 of Burton and Depp's movies so far, so I'm almost totally sure I'll obsess over this one too!" Oh well, my lesson is learned. Since this was their 8th movie as a director/actor team, I can now say that I have loved exactly half of what Burton and Depp have done together and didn't care much for the other half. So the next time they make a movie together, I will know that my odds are 50/50 as to whether I'll like it or not.



Most people don't seem to go actively searching for new interests, but whenever I hit a low point in my Tim Burton/Johnny Depp obsession, I begin to wish I had a new one because I feel uninspired. Then I start longing for the emotional high of a new obsession, so then I try to search for something to give me that emotional high again.

Sort of. One of my main special interests is military aviation and I'm really disappointed in the F-22 raptor program. The plane is having tons of teething problems, is prohibitively expensive (more than 100 million for one plane), not to mention its not my idea of pretty and the air force plans on replacing the beautiful F-15 eagle with it. Also disappointed the air force wants to get rid of the cheaper, more effective, subsonic A-10 thunderbolt that can loiter around battlefields much longer than any regular jet for a more expensive, super sonic stealthy plane that's ALSO having its own problems (F-35).

Also disappointed that no A-10, F-15 or F-16 demos will be flying this year, 2012 is going to be depressing for air shows.

Aprilviolets, you had a meltdown due to a beard? ROFL!

You shouldn't laugh; I'm sure it wasn't funny to her. I have had meltdowns over similar things. I remember when I was a child, I used to freak out over the fact that my mom needed glasses. Recently I got upset that my mom was looking into getting these newfangled dentures called "Snap On Smile". I am completely baffled as to why she wants them; it appears it's only for cosmetic reasons, as her teeth are perfectly healthy.

-Halloween '78 (currently a doctors office or something)

-TX Chainsaw '74 (there was a weed crop on the back side lol)

-Big Boss '71 (the Boss mansion is sadly a bordello these days , back then a mausoleum.....adds more fire to the Lee curse , his H.K house and the Rome hotel are also more or less bordellos)

Pretty sure these also filmed interior shots inside the actual houses

Thank you Idahorose people laugh at me for it all the time but it wasn't funny I'm sure mootoo has things they're upset about.

When an actual person becomes a "special interest", I'm disappointed, each. And every. Time.

I was extremely disappointed when Stargate Universe got cancelled. I had all sorts of possible scenarios that could happen in the future all thought up in my mind, expecting something extremely interesting to happen, a season or two further into the series than when it stopped. And when I found out it got cancelled... I actually tried to imagine new episodes in my mind, so I could keep the series going on a little longer, but unfortunately, my special interest with Stargate died out and got replaced by a new one.

Have you ever had a meltdown about something that seems extremely ridiculous to others and gotten laughed at? If that happened to you, I don't think you would have been laughing.

Sometimes when I really feel like I'm setting myself up for dissapointment (aka getting too involved in something) and start to be aware it isn't healthy, I do try to find new things. Usually it ends up sort of linked but I did do totally different stuff just to get away from myself.
Certainly with work, when I lived allone for only a short time my whole home was stocked with computerstuff everywhere. Litterally slept at my desk and people knew I was available in some odd way 24/7. After a while, when it starts to rain in the kitchen (going to fix that leak... going to fix that leak in the roof... what roof...) and cobwebs on the stairs to your bedroom make a fine setting for some real life d&d... you find out there is something 'too much' going on.
Usually these moments lead to activate some older interest, sometimes a new part of something old (cnc courses are a bit computer but more modelling).

Very often, trying new stuff seems to be extremely disapointing. Leaving ict for cnc professionally won't work for me, I did learn why 'overqualified' really is a problem (some people seem to hate people with higher degrees). But when it works out, at least for me it helped for a while to know that computers are not the only thing I can do. (I'm not that good with them anyway). The ones that seem to work are usually somewhat linked to 'known' interests. Cnc disappointment was mostly on a personal level failure (showing I don't mix with humans again) and crawled back to computers because they do pay the bills but currently I feel I really have nothing anymore.

As for the meltdowns... Sometimes the smallest most idiotic thing can trigger that I just don't like something for a while. Problem is that people get scared when I get angry (extremely uncommon) and some collection gets to be the victim.

I'll list my disappointment(s) from my biggest special interests...

1. One good thing about I Love Lucy is that the show is done with production, so I never have to experience the awfulness of getting so excited for a new season and finding out it's garbage and the show's jumped the shark. That being said, however, the beginning half of season 6 is, for the most part, loathsome to me. "Lucy and Orson Welles." Enough said... What an utter abomination!

The biggest Lucy disappointment for me was just finding out the sordid details of Lucy and Desi's real lives (which I now love reading about ), and that was only because I got into I Love Lucy when I was only 12 and was even more naive and had even worse OCD than now. I got my first Lucy book for my 13th birthday, and I about had a heart attack when I read some of the more colorful (and hilarious ) behind-the-scenes quotes of Bill Frawley and Vivian Vance's utter hatred of one another, how nasty and overly controlling Lucy was on set, etc. It was just very jarring for me to see how non-family friendly the stars could be as opposed to the very tame show. But a few years later, I realized that I couldn't care less about the stars' lives other than how it related to I Love Lucy. I am NOT a Lucille Ball fan. I am a Lucy Ricardo fan. I care solely about I Love Lucy and Lucy and Desi's real-life romance, which translates into the show. And The Long, Long Trailer. Just because that was essentially a 90-minute Lucy episode.

2. As for neuropsychiatry, the brain is too fascinating and amazing to ever provide disappointment. But the DSM-5 on the other hand... That reminds me- have to write my scathing commentary this weekend, so I can submit it before the June 15th deadline. And no, removing AS as a diagnosis is not my main complaint. That is only the tip of the iceberg...

3. Cedar Point has never seriously disappointed me, but I was pretty enraged two years ago when I found out that they chose to build SHOOT THE RAPIDS instead of any size/type of coaster to put them back as the park with the most coasters.

You are so right.

I don't look for them, they just come to me. And then I have a limited amount of time to get into it and if I don't then I'll lose interest.

I suppose you could say that I've been disapointed when I got a new "idea" and then didn't follow through because it came boring.

I can even start playing a great computer game and if I haven't made a dents in story within a certain timeframe then I'll completely loose interest despite the fact it might be an awesome game. I can still retry it years later. I've done that with multiple games. As an example I can mention one of the Assassins creed games. It was awesome but I had to work and when I did have time for it I lost interest faster than a hooker looses her panties. Came back later and it was again awesome.

EDIT: If AS people could choose their special interest I would have learned Japanese, Spanish and Russian years ago. - it cannot be done IMHO. If you have to look for it, then it's just an interest ... NOT a special interest.

I've never gotten disappointed by a current special interest. However, when I occasionally revisit an old one I find that without the obsession it's not really all that great It's always saddening and disappointing to look back at something that once meant so much to me and wonder what on earth I was thinking putting so much time and effort into it.

Awesome to hear ... because this flies against all common diagnosis method, because according to them we maintain them for life.

You telling me that you also change them make me feel more normal (by which I mean more normal AS).

I'm kind of embarrassed that this topic got bumped back up to the front page, because I wrote it during a time when I was both a) not feeling well physically and b) overly-emotional/sensitive. In the days since creating this topic, my attitude about Dark Shadows has changed somewhat. Although I still consider it to be one of Burton and co.'s less amazing movies due to its weak plot, I have decided to see the good in it and I like it because of the characters of Barnabas and Julia, as well as the whole retro atmosphere. I actually look forward to seeing it again on DVD, because maybe seeing it with fresh eyes and a better attitude will give me more enjoyment this go-around.

I understand how you feel. Recently I went on a shopping spree and bought a ton of books about Tim Burton and Johnny Depp, the men responsible for creating the movies I'm so obsessed with. I'm beginning to regret that I'd done that. Their personalities are nothing like I'd imagined them to be.

From what I've read about Johnny Depp and sensed in a couple of his interviews, I get the impression that Hollywood has made him a bitter man. He acts like (no pun intended) his good-looks and worldwide fame are some kind of curse. Sometimes he seems so angry that it's not too far of a stretch of the imagination to see him as the man who once trashed a hotel room and attacked the paparazzi. Before I knew much about him, I viewed him as this angelic figure who could do no wrong. I almost wish that I'd never taken a glimpse into what he's actually like, so that mental image of him would not have been tainted.

I used to view Tim Burton as a kindred spirit - someone who must have had all the same emotions I did and similar life experiences. Almost as though he completely understood me without ever having met me. After all, how else could he have created movies that have spoken to me on such a deep emotional level? But reading through his interviews and insights into his childhood, I have come to realize that he and I are almost nothing alike. We were shaped, both as individuals and as artists, by completely different influences and circumstances. And as with Johnny Depp, his personality was substantially different than how I had pictured him in my mind.

As a warning to anyone else who is a fan of a particular celebrity's work - It's probably in your best interest not to delve too deeply into their personal lives, because chances are, you probably won't like what you find there.

I agree with this. My recent experience has been that I haven't had any special interests in a long time, about two years. I've been trying new things but nothing seems to feel the same as they used to. However, it just feels like a special interest isn't just going to drop out of the blue, so I keep trying things.