Can an Aspie get by without constantly apologizing.......

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Contrary to some of the piror posts, I sometimes refuse to app prologue to people as well. For instance, a someone in 8th. Grade decided to body slam me so I wrestled him to the ground. The teacher wanted me to apologize, I refused.

I apologized all the time when I was a kid (pre-diagnosis). I don't quite as much anymore, but I still sort of feel the urge to apologize a lot.

I am constantly apologizing to people even when I dont have a reason to apologize because I keep thinking I offended someone or angered someone. When someone is not talking to me I automaticly think my aspiness drove that person crazy or made the person mad or annoyed so I apologize even when the person tells me I didnt annoy the person etc. Its sort of a habit of mine, I tend to apologize for no reason. It sometimes annoys people though and I apologize for that too.

I don't tend to apologize around my friends and people who know me. I don't know, it's just how I am and I don't mean any harm, but if I said an apology every time I think I offended someone, I would end up apologizing all the time, since I never know these things for sure.

I frikken hate it though that some strangers decide to take their anger out on my when I make some stupid small social blunder. I was told I had a mental disability for not saying I was sorry

Hardly anyone I know ever apologizes so why should I? Everyone makes their own silly mistakes so I just move on.

I rarely apologize. I just dont like doing it much, and 90% of the time it would be insincere because either: (A) I offended someone and entirely meant the offensive thing and believe it to be an accurate statement, or (B) it was something where they asked my opinion of something, expecting a specific answer, but I give an honest one (woman asking "does this dress make me look fat", for example) in which case I see no reason to because I answered their question, and if they expect a dishonest answer, then there is no reason to even ask.

Not as much anymore, thank God.

I don't apologise a lot, but on the other hand I do spend a lot of time shutting up.

If I open my mouth and speak - I would simply have to live in a state of apology so I don't - I live with it and hope I get though it and stay away from humans as much as I can- I get introuble alot at work because I open my month nothing bad just everything comes out upside down - I have to say I hate it

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NTs definitely do NOT want to hear what I have to say.

When they ask me about something or my opinion I just laugh and flat out say, 'I'm just going to keep my mouth shut about that, but I'll nod and smile!'
I'll even put my hand over my mouth sometimes.

I think even NT's need to apologize from time to time... For me I always have to actively think about what I am going to say, especially when I am around people I don't know very well... I view every conversation I have know as a learning experience... It is amazing how much growth I have obtained with this philosophy...
I only tell closest friends/ family that I have AS. many people just are not in touch with their emotions and really can give you nothing. they probably can't see anything wrong with you anyhow other than being a bit quirky, but who isn't