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15 Jun 2012, 10:35 am

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Why did someone quote my entire post, but then did not add any response of their own?

sorry my response is in the quote. My mistake.

It should be fixed now. Does it look right?

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15 Jun 2012, 11:34 am

I think there's lots of reasons- here are some of mine.
- it's a place for people with ASDs or similar to ask others for help with problems
- often it's the only way that I can "talk" about my problems
- it's the only way I can communicate with others with an ASD asking advice from people with similar experiences
- I only ever post if I have a problem I need help with: people are so helpful here!

Also, remember lots of us have additional problems and conditions- it may seem we're being negative but not really.
And often we either can't talk about some of our problems with people we know, or just don't have any one to talk too, especially when it comes to ASD-related issues.

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15 Jun 2012, 11:38 am

mostly because we don't need help with being happy. It's when we are trying to troubleshoot unpleasant stuff that we need to reach out to others that may have helpful data.

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15 Jun 2012, 12:15 pm

All very valid reasons and another thing I noticed is that I'm one of the youngest users of WP but that doesn't mean that I didn't have my ups and downs yet!

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15 Jun 2012, 1:56 pm

Chris71 wrote:

The forum has a lot of threads and posts about sad and serious subjects, because we need to share our experiences about being aspies or having other disorders.

It's a bit like volunteering on the phone desks for the Samaritans, and then wondering, "why are most of the phone calls I'm getting, about sad and serious subjects?"

Occasionally there is some light relief in the forms of some jokes or funny stories.
The fact that WP has more volume of serious threads compared to 'enlightening'/amusing/upbeat threads, is merely a reflection of the condition which most of us accept is more of a disability rather than a special ability..

The few that do occasionally come up with threads such as "I love my aspergers" and "I wouldn't change the way I am" ; usually are those who are also Neurotypical-bashers, or at least they put NTs all in the same basket ; Such aspies are likely to have been bullied and ridiculed in the past by people whom they perceive as inferior species, and use their perceived image of their own Aspie "superiority" as a coping mechanism to fool themselves into thinking that their condition is a good thing.

Those who write such terms as "those illogical, non-sensical NT people", in reality are just comparing themselves with a specific, small subset of the worst NT scumbags on the planet, in order to make them feel better about themselves.

There are millions of very intelligent, friendly, charming, witty and highly rational and logical-thinking people out there, of which most of them are Neurotypicals by sheer volume of people.

I choose to enjoy the humour and company of the highly rational NTs, and ignore the idiot NTs.
Many others here choose to ignore the presence of the highly rational NTs in the World, and instead put more focus on ridiculing the idiot NTs.

Although I do enjoy reading all perspectives, this post is a bit too "black and white" for my way of thinking. Accepting neurodiversity as a positive, i.e. thinking that someone who has an aspergers phenotype may have some positive traits that NT's don't possess, does not equate in my mind to perceiving NT's as an "inferior species" nor do I think that someone who posts something positive about having aspergers is more likely than others to have has been bullied in their past by NT's, although some may have.

I personally think that many aspies that I have known have had some amazing gifts, in part or fully due to their aspergers way of processing information. This does not mean that I can't also appreciate the talents of a NT. For example, I admire certain NT's that seem to be particular good with people, a talent I definitely don't possess. It takes all types to make the world go round!

I also want to add that I've seem many positive posts in the archives that I have explored here, some very light hearted, and others just expressing thoughts in a neutral to positive way. For example, I have found lots of info on the differences between male and female aspies that I found very helpful.

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15 Jun 2012, 2:27 pm

kill231 wrote:

I wonder why most of the users put in very serious and sad subjects. Some of the sad posts include bullying, talking about suicide, tge difference between us and NTs. The later in my opinion is because the world is dominated by NTs and they may find us strange.
Lastly can someone telly me why depressing posts which make NTs seem evil are so depressing?

Yeah, this forum is full of people who just complain about their inability to socialize, but at the same time they refuse to compromise, change or reach out half-way to NT's.

I just avoid the negativity and focus on the positive parts of this forum. They exist.

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15 Jun 2012, 3:25 pm

Because life being an aspie is rough and life seems depressing and chaotic.True that one doesnt have to be an aspie to know life sucks though, it just seems in my eyes I will always be an outsider trying to fit in but never will, be considered a freak,and be an easy target to bully and abuse. No matter how good my accomplishments I always focus more on my failures and want to strive for more to get respect and have people change their opinions of me but to no avail I still feel self loathing.

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15 Jun 2012, 3:52 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:

Yep. I hear you, man. So true.

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15 Jun 2012, 10:53 pm

-because as much as people try to spin AS as being a gift, it still sucks for a lot of us a lot of the time
-because I don't have anyone else in my life who gets it, and I suspect this is true for a lot of aspies
-because the internet seems to attract depressed people, both NT and AS. If people are happy with their lives they don't tend to spend as much time with people they'll likely never meet
-misery loves company

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15 Jun 2012, 11:19 pm

kill231 wrote:

Without sadness and stress we would be much shallower then we are now.

I hate to be all depressing and stuff but without stress you would probably accomplish much more in life and might be more rounded rather than shallow.

As for the posts on WP you have to kind of expect that when 60+% of the people with AS also have chronic depression.

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15 Jun 2012, 11:39 pm

Because a lot of us are depressed and WP is one of our outlets, sometimes only, to express how we feel about this kind of stuff. A lot of the people I meet in real life are pretty shallow, and the majority of people on here aren't like that. They genuinely care and will talk to you about your problems. We understand and can relate to each other.

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16 Jun 2012, 12:13 am

If you want to see something funny just go to PPR :wink:

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16 Jun 2012, 2:05 am

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Because the spectrum ain't exactly full of kittens and rainbows...

http://www.bookworm.com.au/Book/All-Cat ... 04810.aspx

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16 Jun 2012, 3:40 am

Chris71 wrote:

I agree with this entire post. I'd like to add that I've never understood NT bashing - other autistic people have treated me just as badly if not worse than some NTs. Therefore I judge people based on how they are as a whole - not what their neurological status is.

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16 Jun 2012, 5:52 am

Delphiki wrote:

If you want to see something funny just go to PPR :wink:

How very true!

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