Not being able to talk

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This. Or rather, other people think I'm shy.

do to some bad seizures I have been Mute from Feb. It did try to came back for like 3 days but that was all.
My Dr's are now saying That I will be a non-verbal person for life.

I have not let it stop me I am still doing what I like to do.
Just the other day I had gone out to eat with no one with me but my pen and note pad. And it did go good.

I have periods that can last for hours or days after a shutdown caused by overload during which I can't talk. I'm in the midst of one right now (on my third day). Occasionally, a thought will slip out unintentionally, but if I try to speak deliberately, there's nothing.

It's frustrating because I haven't really done anything to accommodate being unable to speak, so when it happens I mostly end up not communicating with anyone. I could send e-mail, but I am dubious about anything I write being read, as I often find that things I write do not, in fact, get read.

I know I can sometimes manage single words if I try hard enough (I recall doing this in December, 2010, when my sister wanted me to suggest something to her, and I used a DVD box to make the suggestion...which she completely misunderstood).

I need to get something in place so I can be prepared when this happens.

I can relate to almost everything in this thread. I generally don't say much in social situations unless I have to or if conversation relates to my special interest. I have a hard time getting any words out when I'm stressed out or upset--it's like, I know what I want to say, but my brain won't let me speak.

It's like there's a kill switch in my mind that's activated by opening my mouth. When I met a new guy at work, I followed the "script" for meeting new people: "Hi, new guy, my name is... Nice to meet you." Then the next time I saw him was in the breakroom and he said hello to me and my mind went totally blank. I mumbled hi, and practically ran away. Now he looks at me funny, as if I'm some kind of simpleton.

I can't carry on any kind of conversation about things other than interests without some kind of script to follow. I can shop, work, see the therapist/psychiatrist, talk about knitting, jewelry, the Middle Ages in England, stuff like that just fine. But having to improvise, especially small talk or getting acquainted with people--forget it.

For me, my interest in psychology has helped me with that. Sometimes when I'm talking to people I'll slip into the role of a psychologist, trying to figure out what makes them tick. Since most people love to talk about themselves, I'll ask them questions about themselves and they'll happily talk on and on without much effort on my part. And because I'm psychoanalyzing them, I don't get bored listening to them!

I have a similar thing going on - I can talk extensively (ad nauseam) about music or language - my main special interests (although language is no longer a true special interest, merely one that ended in the recent past) - it helps that my source of income (albeit a small source of income) is through my music - I'm able to socialize better when everyone's common link is music, than in normal situations.