Do you give a lot of criticism?

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I prefer quality over quantity

Last edited by Rascal77s on 19 Jun 2012, 1:07 am, edited 2 times in total.

Every time I read Titanic fanfic, I love to correct the authors if I think I see an error or if they messed up with ages or whatsoever. I have even correct Benny and Joon authors and I set someone straight because she had Benny talking to Mike at work and I said he doesn't work there he instals cable TV. I have made a joke about an error too in the story in one of my reviews because the person did not do their research on Spokane. I will even ask questions sometimes as my way of pointing out some errors like I said the other night how is Rose 46 in 1942 but was 17 in 1912 when Titanic sank? The author had her be 46 years old on April 15th 1942 her son's birthday.

Sometimes I wonder if I ever have anything nice to say about these stories I read than being critical about them but I am just trying to help. It's as if I go around looking for stories to criticize than say nice things about it. But I still leave comments when I have anything to say about it. But most of the times I don't see the point because there are other chapters to read so I don't leave my comments. I just keep on reading.

I find it funny how even NTs can be so sensitive to criticism and they say we are black and white sensitive to criticism?

I figure that everyone is entitled to my opinion so I give it freely when there is an audience worthy of hearing it. The thing is though, that I have learned over time that few people are really worth it as most of them are too stupid to listen to good advice when it is given. Thus, I usually keep it to myself unless it's really necessary.

Very true.
However when I sense that they are too stupid to listen to good advice, or too stubborn, and they continue to follow ineffective old ways, and they continually face the same undesired outcomes as a result, I then feel an urge to make them feel really stupid in some other way.
It's not stupidity that gets me.
It's not even arrogance that gets me.
It's the combination of the two that really gets me going.

I think for me it's a combination of ignorance, stupidity and arrogance that gets to me when it comes to people - the combination of them all together is just dangerous.

I do make critical remarks sometimes, usually only when asked for my opinion or advice - however this is because I am a perfectionist in every sense of the word. And I am 10 times worse about my own work or on any topic than I would ever be about anybody else's. Even when I do criticise, I always go over the good points first.

The majority of the time I just ask someone why they have chosen to do something a certain way - usually this is interpreted as criticism even though it is actually coming from curiousity, because I really do want to know why they decided to do it that particular way.

I have found that my questions that come from my curiousity usually get just as bad a reaction, if not a worse reaction, than my criticism does. Which is sad really because so many of the things I would like to know could be valuable if people weren't always so defensive and negative.

I have given up asking questions in relation to my work. I only do that with my mentor, because everyone else takes it the wrong way.

Last edited by Kjas on 19 Jun 2012, 4:39 am, edited 2 times in total.

Um, no, it's the other way around for me, other people (mostly men) tend to verbally criticise me 'til they're blue in the face, mostly not taking into consideration the differences between executive dysfunction and intentional laziness. Women criticise in a differently way, usually strangers, non-verbally, by glaring at me and making me feel uncomfortable.

Once again, Autistics lack empathy = BS. If I hear one more person on here say that stupid word ''empathy'', I will strangle them (not literally but I will feel like it).

I really try to avoid giving criticism because some people take it the wrong way and try to behead you. It makes you wonder sometimes why people even ask for constructive criticism when they'll try to dismember you for giving I in the first place! Bizarre.

Oh yes!

I tend to criticise a lot, but I try to keep it down as much as possible. Especially around people I don't know good enough. Most NT's only want your opinion if you agree with them. Probably because NT's just need affirmation more than the truth.

But, why think of it as a problem? I have a very good NT-friend, and he has told me many times, that he values my honest and objective criticism. A criticism he can't get from his family and NT-friends.

On the other hand, I'm very sensitive myself towards critisism, especially because most criticism from NT's are not objective. I would love objective criticism, but most NT's don't do that, because they don't like it themselves.

I don't criticise peoples choice of clothes, music, food, etc.

That really bothers me too ...



So true! I just can't stand that combo. Mostly, I can't even be in the same room
with somebody like that. Have this urge to beat some sense into their empty chicken-brains

I am overly critical, I admit. I think it stems from routine for me. I have a set way that I think something should be done, and I tend to criticize those who do it differently than I would. I do not handle criticism from others very well though. Probably for the same reason, because I usually feel that my way of doing something is better. I know it sounds arrogant, and I don't mean it to be. Outside of the moment, I can logically see that there are many acceptable ways to do something. But at the time, all I can focus on is how someone else is doing it "wrong" and I can't stop myself from pointing this out.