The Other Eye Contact Problem

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I apparently blush easily, though not as much as I used to. Sometimes, it's for no reason that I can account for. I'm sure this makes me seem weird, and that doesn't help anything.

You know, it seems to me that we need a more Aspie appropriate video that starts with where we are instead of trying to fit us into the NT box. While some of us may like dating, a lot of us would prefer to get to know people casually, over time, before we decide we're used to someone enough to consider attraction. By then, sometimes someone who might've been interested at the outset might know us well enough to have lost interest, and that happened to me a lot over the years. But I've since found that, once a person is ready to be involved with someone, not just being lonely for having been alone for so long, things can change. You can meet someone who also likes to take time to get to know somebody before developing interest. You can also meet someone who waits for you and carries a small torch, as they say, until you come around at last. Either will work, and then you can try spending more time together to see how it goes. We need a video that explores that angle, as well as how to not overwhelm someone once mutual interest is acknowledged, so you don't scare this nice person away when you really have a chance.

So, where's the "Finding a Partner As an Aspie" video, versus the "Finding a Partner Like an NT Would for Aspies" video? Also, a "Getting to Know an Aspie You Like" video might be educational for the NT crowd.