Was one of your parents Autistic?

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My mother's family definitely has traits of AS in quite a few of her relatives. Not so much the women but mostly the men and a few of my cousins. My dad has a lot of aspie traits. I wouldn't say that any of them have autism or AS though, just a lot of the traits that go with it.

My mother is completly neurotypical. She is very emotionally aware and social and lively.

My dad probably doesn't have AS ( since no huge discrepencies in academic subjects, and great executive functioner.) But his social skills arent greatest, and he doesnt always understand social situations. I think I get it from him

I had a single mother ; I had no "daddy-figure" ever in my life.

Mother had some aspie traits
- socially awkward
- unintentionally making rather harsh comments that aren't "diplomatically"-toned
- over-sensitive to background noise
- rather clueless when seeing the humour in some adverts, or understanding jokes
- have to think long and hard what to say next in a conversation ; then inadvertently drop a clanger of a comment that is out of line with the conversation or cause embarassment
- preferred being alone, sucked at relationships, very aloof, very cold, never showed any emotion, ever.

but also some non-aspie traits
- reads a lot of fiction novels (ok a lot of us on WP do that also)
- over-uses idiomatic expressions in her language ( in contrast my language is more logical )

Since leaving that lonely household back in 1990, I have since improved myself 100x. I had a lot of catching up to do in the last 20 years, but I did pretty well I think.

Maternal grandmother, no doubt.

She had a museum-quality playing card collection, tens of thousands, cataloged by subject with library accuracy, filling in an entire floor of her house, sealed like a vault. Got to see it once, for a few minutes, and, at the age of 10, I knew.

Didn't know what.

But I knew.

My father is very likely to have an ASD.

Mother and brother not.

Both of my parents are NTs sadly.

No, neither of mine are diagnosed. But I do suffer from social anxiety and my mum suffers from high anxiety in general. Also my dad is bipolar, and from what I've read Autism is more likely with history of bipolar in the family.

My dad and his mother. My dad was the very prototype of the Aspie engineer, with all the symptoms. A bit savant in his memory skills. He lived marginalized, same as me.

My mother has some traits. She monologued at people into her 40's. (I learned to stop doing that from seeing how annoying it is to be on the receiving end.) Her special interest is ancient history and she has big boxes full of history books everywhere.

Socially, she's weird but completely oblivious. In a weird way it works for her, though. Also very straight forward, has a fast/'mathematical'/'logical' mind, an upbeat disposition (a really good trait; wish I had it) and is Japanese (I think people write off some of her oddities to cultural differences). All that stuff forms a balance such that she that she does ok socially (but only in the short-term). Overall, "active but odd" fits.

OTOH, she's been eaten alive by office politics many times. She started a student exchange program between a school here (USA) and a school in Japan. After a few years a clique of people maneuvered and took over (and ruined the program). (The city was partially funding the organization, so they had to have elected officers.) And similarly with most jobs she had.

She also has a very strong sense of fairness/justice. Even if she has someone "over a barrel" she doesn't take more than what is fair.

Oh, and I don't know if it's relevant re: ASD, but she has a near eidetic memory (until a stroke some years ago, anyway).

My mom has ADHD and my dad, while not diagnosed, seems borderline autistic in some ways. Not all of them but a few, most notably the social end of it I think.

None, the suspected reason i have mine, is because of brain damage cause because of lack of air while being born.

My mum has Aspergers as well, quite severely when she was a child and used to stim all the time.

My Dad was suspected of having it as well, but I'll never know. Some things my Mum and Grandmother have told me about him, makes it quite obvious.

I'm pretty sure I'm the only one in the family; at least in the past 2 or 3 generations. Parents and grandparents were all very socially accepted, and popular in their groups, and had no traits or symptoms of autism that I know of. I do have several of the theoretical predispositions to autism, so no surprise that I am HFA. My father was pushing 70 when I was born (several sources claim that father over 40 can be a big factor), and I was my mother first (only) child, and I was 29 days late delivered. Probably there are other notorious factors that I'm not thinking of just now.

Charles

I don't think so.

My Dad has Asperger's, and my brother has Autism.

I think both my parents are like, half and half. I see traits in both my parents, but neither are full blown compared to me. BUT, on my mom's side of the family, my uncle has pretty severe Aspergers, has a full blown autistic son, and that whole side has a lot of DXed Aspergers people. So I think me as far as how I relate to my parents, it's more like .5+.5=1. I have a sister with spina bifida, too, and while she's not autistic, she's not really "NT" either, ie, she's a musical savant and could play any music she heard as a kid by ear, at like 4-5 years old.