I sometimes have problems comprehending what is being said

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16 Jul 2012, 4:48 pm

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Same here, it makes it seem like it would be tiring, because with some speakers of a foreign language, and depending on the language it may be most of the speakers, they will give up with you the first time you misunderstand, assume that you just don't understand the language as well as they thought, and immediately start mixing it with English or just switching to English, at which point I feel insulted and like a failure. This is actually quite an obstacle. I wonder if what I should do in those cases is explain in their language about auditory processing disorders.


I know exactly what you're talking about. This has happened to me many times in the past, and it is -really- frustrating. I don't give up on using English the moment someone starts having the slightest hint of trouble with it... yet if I mess up (or appear to) with my German or my Russian (haven't noticed it so much with my Spanish), they almost always instantly switch to English.

What I do in these situations is keep speaking to them in whichever language I'm wanting to speak, even if they keep speaking English. If it's bad, I'll act like I don't understand them, and say "I don't understand you, you'll need to speak ____" in whichever language.


Ja, if and when I ever move to a country where the language is spoken, I'll pretend not to understand English. :D

However, the issue, as I'm sure you realize, isn't that I don't understand the language, and in fact each word and component phrase I've heard and understood lots of times before, it's just that for whatever reason now my APD is kicking in and just preventing me from comprehending this sentence as spoken--though of course if I see it written I'll be like, oh yeah! That's what makes it even more frustrating, when they assume that you just don't understand the language well enough, because that's why most people would have such a problem.


Yeah, I know what you mean. I was thinking mostly of those situations when I wrote that post. It would happen a lot when I worked at a German immersion school - there was a German woman who would talk to me every time I walked past her, and because this was always outside while the kids were being released, there was a lot of noise going on, so I often had APD problems, and she would -always- switch right to English. Although I must give her some credit, as she would always start our conversations in German.

In the future, I might just go "huh? what?" when someone starts using English, just to drive the point across that I was having issues hearing them. (even though the issue was with my brain interpreting what it was hearing)



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16 Jul 2012, 4:55 pm

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...sometimes, all I hear is sounds, instead of words with meaning.


Could it be that you're distracted by other things, maybe your attention is drawn to the way the person talking to you is gesturing or giving non-verbal cues. I can find myself spring-boarding of words or other things while listening just as I can when reading text - something in the text reminds me of something else that I start thinking about while I continue to read with my eyes only! At the end of a paragraph I may just realise this and start reading it again but instantly slip back into the other train of though (repeat n times over). Has the same feel as the hearing thing to me.



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16 Jul 2012, 4:59 pm

Doesn't usually happen to me in my native language, although it does once in a blue moon, especially when, after a long silence, somebody starts talking. I might hear them talk, but not make any sense of what they say for a short while.

It happens more when talking on the phone. And talking on the phone in another language triggers more of this.

Most often, I do have a slight delay in deciphering what people say. I've read this is typical for ADHD and it's due to wandering attention and inability to focus.

However, all of this is not severe enough and I manage to hide it by using compensatory techniques.


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16 Jul 2012, 5:22 pm

I have this same problem. A friend just explained it perfectly to me, as I couldn't put it into words - It's like someone speaking in The Sims language!
If you've never played The Sims, this is what they sound like http://youtu.be/RTvjFcRRvn0
(This is not actually what they're saying, it's just someone's funny interpretation)


Subtitles are always played wherever possible. I had to cancel my LOVEFiLM streaming subscription because they offer NO subtitles on any of their content, except foreign.



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16 Jul 2012, 5:27 pm

Radian wrote:
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I just misunderstand things and sometimes, all I hear is sounds, instead of words with meaning.


Could it be that you're distracted by other things, maybe your attention is drawn to the way the person talking to you is gesturing or giving non-verbal cues. I can find myself spring-boarding of words or other things while listening just as I can when reading text - something in the text reminds me of something else that I start thinking about while I continue to read with my eyes only! At the end of a paragraph I may just realise this and start reading it again but instantly slip back into the other train of though (repeat n times over). Has the same feel as the hearing thing to me.


Even if I am focused and not distracted, this happens.

By the way, I had to edit my original post because it just didn't look right when I was reading it, so could you do me a favor Radian and edit my quote in your post so it looks like the updated version?



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16 Jul 2012, 6:39 pm

Radian wrote:
Alfonso12345 wrote:
...sometimes, all I hear is sounds, instead of words with meaning.


Could it be that you're distracted by other things, maybe your attention is drawn to the way the person talking to you is gesturing or giving non-verbal cues. I can find myself spring-boarding of words or other things while listening just as I can when reading text - something in the text reminds me of something else that I start thinking about while I continue to read with my eyes only! At the end of a paragraph I may just realise this and start reading it again but instantly slip back into the other train of though (repeat n times over). Has the same feel as the hearing thing to me.


I sometimes have trouble with this while listening to music and singing or talking and trying to type something else, or trying to read and talk at the same time... Basically, anytime i try to process two different things like that, they either cancel each other out completely to where I understand nothing, or one will sorta become the other halfway thru so I'll get about half of each piece of info.



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17 Jul 2012, 12:23 am

I definitely have this problem!!

Especially in louder places - I annoy mySELF at how often I have to ask someone to repeat themselves!

And people with accents may as well be speaking a foreign language to me. I have always had trouble with this, to the extent that I did much worse in French at school than I should have (could speak, read, write it very well, but when I heard it spoken I couldn't understand a single word!)
People with accents in a loud place - lol No hope there ;)

Most of my family have trouble with this - in fact, it is what most of our humour was based around, growing up. We would laugh at the funny thing we thought someone said. It still makes me laugh lol

I watch movies with the subtitles on, otherwise I can't understand everything.



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17 Jul 2012, 1:12 am

This happens to me every once in a while. Usually at work where there is a lot of background noise.
I can hear what they're saying, but it just doesn't make sense. Depending on the situation I'll say "what?" as if I didn't hear them. If they say something and walk away, I have to try and deduce what they said. 8O


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