Is this why you hate crowds?

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for me, it's like a claustrophobia. Too many people around me feels like the walls are closing in and I just have to get out of there.

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I hate large crowds because I feel like I stand out like a sore thumb, people are always giving my odd looks, even children/ infants, and it tends to make me really nervous.

I saw this woman look me up and down, then abruptly turned away when she caught me watching
Who the hell does that? WHY would someone do that? I know we're a curious species, but c'mon, have some respect you goddamn parasite.

As far as I know, I don't really look... weird? I have long, thick hair that gets kinda messy when I go out, so could look as though I don't brush it, and I tend to wear a lot of black, but the town where I live is full of diverse looking people.
I've since assumed they stare because I look nervous, I guess my body stance isn't that of a comfortable person. I just wish people would stop f***ing staring, sometimes it makes me feel psychopathic.
I wish I could speak out when they stare, but then that would make me look insane.
God, even thinking about it makes me feel frustrated.

I'm short, but my height doesn't bother me - though sometimes it would be nice to have a better range of sight. I think my problems are with being pushed around/bumpted, the chaoticness of it - how difficult it is to move about, the noise, the mass of constantly changing visual etc.

I hate crowds because they're too loud, they hurt, and people get in my way constantly.

I'm sorry that your height complex is worse than physical pain and partial shutdowns from sensory overload.

This is kinda strange, I guess. I avoid crowds because I feel like I'm trespassing. I have no reason to be with the crowd and there must surely be a more appropriate place for me than the crowd I've entered.

i'm five two, but i dont care about my size and have never been self conscious of it.
i hate crowds because i feel voilated when people are so close to me, like my space is invaded. i also feel traped and it makes me frustrated.

I'm a little on the taller side, so feeling small isn't the issue. It's running the risk of being touched by strangers too many times, and how freaking noisy it is.

I have similar complaints to other posters here: (Be forewarned, I'm angry about it)

1. Inconsiderate wandering people who jam up the paths
2. Inconsiderate tall people who turn and see me behind them and then plant themselves directly between me and the stage. Seriously Bean Pole?! You've got a view from anywhere in this joint and you just have to sit in front of average-sized me?!
3. People who show up late and then complain that you just move your legs for them to pass instead of standing. You don't get a parade because you're 15 minutes late you disruptive cow!
4. THE NOISE
5. people touching me and/or getting too close

That last one is why I always try to sit in the bar area if the stage is visible from there. Otherwise, by about an hour into the show I'm prone to melt-downs and/or shoving. My patience and my coping skills have limits.

I mostly hate crowds because they're made of people. I don't dislike people, but I dislike trying to deal with a large number of people in a relatively small space. Plus sensory issues, as OddFiction describes:

I'm 5ft 6 and I still feel shrunken and short in crowds and when I'm in public. The world feels too big D:

As someone said above though, I also feel violated in crowds. I don't want people touching me, ever. I absolutely hate it unless it's from a partner.
I need my space! I feel trapped as the person said above. When I'm trying to pass through crowds to exit them, I just start panicking.
I hate tubes, I find myself tucking my arms right in, in hope that I'll have a bit more personal space, but no people move in and closer ¬¬
And why, WHYYYY do people come and sit next to you on the train and bus when there's other seats?

I was sat on the train to London once, and I was sat at a table seat. This girl came and sat opposite me, and stuck her legs right out, so it was in under the table, and right in my personal space so I couldn't have my legs out a normal amount. I was tucked right into the chair, and stretching out diagonally. D:

no- i dislike crowds because there are people in them.

There are a lot of reasons why I dislike crowds, but it's not because of how tall or short I am. Where I come from, everybody's different shapes and sizes so I don't worry about that, it's not like I'm signifficantly short or signifficantly tall. The reason why I don't like crowds is because:-
a) I don't like strangers standing in my personal space (standing too close to me)
b) I feel everybody's looking at me what makes me worry how I could stand out amoung thousands of people
c) I get irritated when I'm in somebody's way or they're in my way
d) Just too many people everywhere just makes me dizzy

I'm tall - it's not the height of people that bothers me. It's being touched by people I don't know that I can't deal with. Call it a personal space issue - the more crowded a place is - the worse it is for me. I can do big gatherings, but it's on my terms. If I have an "escape route" - or place to go to step away for everything for a few minutes it's far easier.

The other thing is - there can be a sensory overload. If there are too many people with too much noise and it's too warm I get more and more aggitated.

6'3" and hate crowds. Besides the din they cause with all their talking, they tend to walk is all different directions and i can't concentrate to where i am going since they always cut me off.

I am pretty short so yes it can be an issue, but I would not say its the main issue I have with crowds. My main issue is it can overwhelm me too much which makes me anxious. I am however fine with crowds at concerts, maybe it has something to do with knowing everyone's there for the same thing and typically most are enjoying the concert so there are good vibes rather then all the random vibes you get on a busy sidewalk or in a mall for instance. Though I don't know everyone really notices that.