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Sweetleaf
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24 Jul 2012, 2:20 pm

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Reg. ToM
I am AS and so is my mother (seeking diagnosis), I had to explain to my mum what imaginative play is (the area for ToM) and this is how the conversation went:

Me: I need to ask you about myself and imaginative play, pretend play.
Mum: you loved playing pretend games and dressing up
Me: Yes, but for example did I play 'tea parties', you know, little cups a tea pot.
Mum: ohh yes. It was one of your favourates. When ever I was doing the washing up, you'd join in, playing in the bubbles, pouring the water.
Me: Yes, but if I had my play tea set out, would I pretend to pour cups of tea without any water in?
Mum: No, why would anybody do that?
Me: that is what imaginative play is. Most kids who want to play tea parties - do it without the water
Mum: Ummm


If I remember right me, my siblings and one of my cousins actually used water....when we got a little older we'd use actual tea and break out our tea set in random public places just for the reactions because we thought it was funny.


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24 Jul 2012, 2:28 pm

Don't know if this is the same, but I was doing a role-play exercise in a training thing at a job I used to have. I was told to play the angry customer, and I just couldn't do it. Not sure why, I think it's because I wasn't actually angry, I couldn't pretend to be or it felt odd in some way. I also remember the only friend I had at school and I, voluteering to do a type of role-play which was also meant to be amusing. I think we may have written a few things down and tried to rehearse it in front of the teacher. It was cringeworthy, and our lack of ability made us embarrassed. We couldn't portray the emotions of the intended characters and we just turned around and looked at the teacher and admitted that "this isn't funny is it." Is this part of ToM? Funnily enough, this friend recently did a quick take of an aspie test and got the result that she had AS traits.



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25 Jul 2012, 12:18 am

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Did you come across as socially OK which masked a very big different underneath the 'facade' or persona?


Yes. One of my bigger challenges with AS is I have the hardest time letting people in to see the real me. On the surface, I'm socially fine. I've got a working script for small talk. But I don't have any practice developing close relationships (the kind I want but don't have) because I keep having to restrain myself from being awkward, not very social, talking about art and music all the time, and I've had little affirmation that people want to see the real me. I find it saddening because I think the real me is really cool if only people knew.


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25 Jul 2012, 2:32 am

Strangely though I feel as if I function better if I am personally detached, and I am pretty good at acting.
This is why I am considering a career in film.


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