Do social situations without a time limit drive you crazy?

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Get kids! Babies/young children are the perfect excuse to leave early.

I'm like that too.

Don't even need a massive reason, just like 'It's been good hanging out, I'll need to head off shortly" and if they ask why then something like got an assignment I need to work on, got to do some reading/emails for work, got to get home to feed the dog before he eats the furniture, got an early start tomorrow etc.

Yes...My parents made good use of us as an excuse , works the other way too if you are still young enough to pretend you are under instructions from your mum to come home at a particular time. Could also use pets if you don't mind coming across as padantic about your pets wellbeing "Oh, I'm sorry, the goldfish get agitated if they are not fed by 8 at night" (Not being serious).

Yeah I'm like that . and the entire time I am thinking about special interests I'd rather get to than boring myself with conversation that I'm not really interested in.

They do and sudden outing changes drive me nuts.

You tell me we r going to XWY dont tell me 30 mins later on the highway lets go to GHW instead XD

Yes, yes and yes!

I usually try to set a time in my head of when I want to leave, and assert it to the person that that's when I want to leave and will leave. Often I've left a lot earlier, because I just can't take being in the social situation any more.

Oh yes! I thought this was just me. I'm constantly aware of how long I've been there and I get to a point that I just have to go. When I get that feeling I can't ignore it. I hate open-ended things and you feel as if everyone else is happy to be there and you don't.

I don't mind hanging out at someone else's house for hours if it's fun. At some point, endless hours of chatter can become a waste of time.

I wouldn't want an unplanned day of endless chatting at my own place. If it's somewhere else, if I'm that bored, I can leave.

Yes, this is why I love getting buses - especially if it's just me getting it (so that I won't have to feel obliged to get a late bus with other people). You can then set your limits, and say, ''I am getting on the 10.05 bus tonight, no later because I heard....'' then tell a lie, like ''I heard/somebody told me that the buses sometimes get held up later at night and I don't want to be waiting around''. When you lie about buses, people often believe you for some reason, especially if they don't use the same service as you use. Well it can be tricky when you get someone who will argue with you, but generally people don't really care about your excuse too much. But sometimes it's worse when somebody offers you a lift, and so you got to wait for them to be ready to go.

So yeah, I prefer to have my limits. The last time I was at a local pub with my brother and his mates and some of my cousins and their mates, I saw my dad go by the window (so did the others), and it was only about 9 o'clock, so I said, ''oh, I will go back with him because I saw he had a Chinese takeaway with him, and I'm really hungry.'' He was carrying a bag, and sometimes he does have a takeaway of some sort with him when coming home from work late, although this time he didn't, but I still safely got away with saying that!

Often, yes.

Yes, they definitely drive me crazy. I find that after 2 hours I become agitated and anxious and I want to leave but don't know how to tell them that because they wouldn't understand, and I'm self-sacrificing. Also, I have no way out when I have no way home, which often happens since I can't drive. I'd have to tell my friend "Ok, I want to go home now, take me home." It's their choice whether I can go home or not. I much prefer social situations that I have control over, when I'm only a few minutes walk away from where I'm staying. I've left social functions early under those circumstances. I don't have to stay for all the excess socializing.

Thankfully right now I only have one friend who would not say anything about taking me home until we've spent 6 hours together at least. And we're talking, or should I say, she's talking most of that time. I'm just sitting in one place listening to her and wishing it was over. I feel drained from enduring that.
I have relatives who want me to stay as long as possible, hence there would be no time limit, or the limit would be exceedingly past my personal limit. They watch TV, and more than three hours of that and I start to feel drained, too.

But, phone calls that have no time limit are even more aggravating. I hate them. If I call one of my uncles, he might never let me go unless I tell him I have other things to do. Some nights he won't even talk about anything except the show on TV that he is watching and I start wanting to hang up. I can't seem to tell him I need to hang up unless I plan something with someone else or it's late at night. "Oh, I have to go because I told my dad I'd be around at a certain time." Last week I said "Well, I've got to let you go now." and he asked why, to which I responded "It's getting late and I have other things to do!"

I threw a party for my little boy's first birthday and set it for 3-6pm- it said that right in the invitation- and people stayed until after 8 and it was really upsetting. My kid was tired and I just wanted them to go away. Some extroverted NTs aren't aware that not everyone takes as much pleasure in socializing as they do. It's like they think they're doing everyone a favour by "extending the fun".

At kids parties it is socially acceptable to have a start/end time, because the parents need to pick them up at a said time. Really weird that someone would stay till 8 when picking up their kid at 6, but perhaps it was some family members of sorts, and they always feel the rules don't apply to them. >.<

This is usually my excuse.. I have to feed them or bath them or get them ready for tea or go out. Everyone expects you to want to keep your kids in a routine.
I've found I'm quite good at excuses now, I've had a lot of practice, and as soon as I get myself into an uncomfortable situation I'm deciding on an excuse to use when I want to leave! When we visit relatives I usually plan something for a certain time afterwards, so we have reason to leave at a specific time.

I don't know these feels.
I've never been in any of these situations.

No, he was only turning 1, so it wasn't the kind of party where parents drop off their kids to play together. It was a bunch of adults, mostly couples, including two pregnant women and one couple who brought their two-year-old.