Situations you can't relate to

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I don't understand people who follow celbrities or royalty.
I really don't understand religion or faith in general.
I don't undertand people who care about other peples religion or faith.
I don't understand gossip.
I don't understand anything about any party or gathering that involves more than a few people.
I don't understand having lots of friends. Even if I had friends, which I don't, I wouldn't want more than 1 or 2.
Being upset that ones SO looks at other people. Of course they do!
I don't get why people get upset about the death of extended family or friends ie: anything less than parent, sibling or child.

Things I get that I didn't use to get:
Pregnancy, childbirth, and kids. I didn't get it until it happened. Now I think it's pretty awesome. But before I did it, like most of you, I could have cared less. Even now really I don't really care so much about the other people, but it reminds me of my experience and that gives me a warm fuzzy.

I do this. The first because I'm obsessed with my kids and at the same time I'm clueless as to how to interact at times with my own kids so I'm literally pinging for ideas when I do it. The second I do because other people do it and I think that other people must think it is interesting. And they do. So I do it. I have the benefit of having known/met some very interesting people.

I forgot about some of these. I do agree with most of this thread too.
I totally agree about religion and the negativity towards being weird and different. I prefer being around people who could be considered weird as opposed to "normal" people.

I never really understand what's so great about sex (might be because I've never done it) but even I can control my desires and not in much need of it. I can't stand people who talk about sex like if it's the most important thing in the world. I never really understood what was so great about prom, I don't like prom.

People missing their children while they are at school or camp.

People feeling guilty for spending time away from their kids or being away from them

People feeling guilty for not being able to afford to buy Christmas presents or baby shower gifts

Religion

People not using birth control so they end up with more kids or with a kid

People who never get over their miscarriage and get offended when people are offended with their dead fetus pictures and tell them it's inappropriate posting such a thing

Parents getting offended when people say they are bad parents because of their choices they make and they don't even know them so why let a stranger's opinion bother them?

Parents getting offended when someone has a critical opinion about a parenting choice or has a opinion about it they don't like. Why the heck do they care what someone thinks?

People needing sex all the time and can't live a sexless marriage or can't have it every now and then because they need it a lot

People liking jerks

People not wanting their partners to have other friends who are the opposite sex of them so they make them dump all their online and real life friends who are

People not wanting to have kids

People finding pregnancy gross and creeped out about a living thing living inside them



I have also noticed NTs also have a hard time relating to people who are going through things they never went through. They lack empathy for it and quickly jump to a conclusion about it and easily judge people about it. Even if they did go through something, they are black and white about it and expect others to deal with it the same way as they did thinking it's all the same. Sometimes I think I have better empathy than these people and can see more shades of gray than them and never had to have that experience for me to understand so it baffles me why they can't understand, something I cannot relate to.

The same here. I don't get the excitement about graduation. When I got my diploma, I just wanted to get the hell out of there, for me there was no need to travel so far for a high school diploma. I don't get sports, pregnancy, marriage, and prom night.

Yes, that's true. Most NT's can be selfish and expect you to go through the same thing.

I'm the opposite. I don't understand people who don't want kids. How can you not like kids? All of you used to be kids. (Now, if you only dislike NT kids, that makes a bit of sense.)

I have no empathy for people who complain about being alone on (insert over-sentmentalized holiday) or who feel the need to festoon their homes with doo-dads and lights just because it's October, November, December, etc.. I am the more religious one in my family, but my husband is the one who always makes such a big deal out of Christmas.

My best Christmas ever was one where my ex-husband went off gambling in Mississippi with his parents and I stayed at home and had a sandwich and a bottle of wine and the house to myself. Talk about joy and peace!

People who don't like sex (It's violent. It's ugly. And it's messy. And if God hadn't made it *unbelievably* fun, the human race would have died out eons ago).
Religion
Why people who watch soap opera's and reality shows.
Why people buy designer clothes for the label.
People whose boyfriend/girlfriend cheated on them or especially anyone that cheats on there boyfriend.
Jealous people


Got to say most things come down to sex

I was 100% disinterested in having a child--I was even in the Zero Population Growth camp--until I met my husband who kept repeating over and over and over, "Let's have a baby. Wanna have a baby?" I relented just to get him to shut up! No, seriously, it made me start thinking it wouldn't be as bad as I knew it would be, and I got pregnant.

Then the weirdest thing happened--my pregnancy hormones made me feel better than I've ever felt in my life! I loved being pregnant because it alleviated a lot of my anxiety and perseverative thinking. But I didn't love being pregnant because I had heartburn and people would tell me a lot of stuff that wasn't their business to talk to me about. Also when I asked the male doctor if giving birth would hurt and so I didn't prepare for an epidural--DUH!

Needless to say, I had no idea what to do once the kid was born. My mother stayed with us five days to help before she said, "Look, I have to get back my to my own life. I can't stay here forever."

I remember feeling surprised that she couldn't. Somehow I managed to become a mother. I had to make it my main focus because, opposite to our idealistically multitask-crazed population, I can only do big jobs well one at a time.

I agree that it helps me to feel something when it is something I've experienced, but I also have a thing about injustice, so I can get pretty worked up about random issues that transgress my views of social justice, for example.

On a personal level, I also do not understand why make-up makes women look better--clearly it would make us look weird if we hadn't brainwashed ourselves into thinking it is a good thing. I also have a thing about high heels--or mass weapons of torture, as I see them--why would walking on my toes be a good idea unless I'm trying to be really quiet?

In fact, the opposite occurs--heels make you clunk, clunk, clunk down the hall, making it impossible to enter a room quietly.

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Even if I don't mind the company of my family, most of the times I wish I had the house to myself because that's my way to keep peace too

Fashion, why women must keep up with it and wear what is in style.

Make up, why women must wear it.

Feeling like born with the wrong gender

People who do drugs and smoke and even try it in the first place

People that like to drink and party

People that need lot of social interaction

People who are compulsive hoarders and pet hoarders too

People who can live in a mess and not clean up after themselves and not even clean their home

People who get offended over things I don't get offended about nor find offensive. I have a hard time understanding it and I always think they are too sensitive.

People who get jealous they let it take over them so they act on it and hate the person they are jealous over

People who sell their nice cars or pawn off all their nice items and entertainment stuff when they lose their jobs so they avoid going on welfare or foodstamps. Then they go on it when they run out of money after selling everything they have. Yes some people do actually do this because they have admitted it online and have told others to sell their car even if it's paid off and sell their movies and games and everything they have that is a luxury or else they are "abusing" the system when they go on it.

Women who care so much about their boobs and worry about them sagging.

People who drink and drive

People who think going fast gets you somewhere. I always laugh when I catch up to them or see them be pulled over or see them get stuck behind another car

People who push the elevator buttons over and over as if they think the elevator will come any faster. One of them even admitted it at my old job. I just think it could be a stim and it helps with their patience. I pace, they push those buttons. Helps me understand it better.

I don't get what's so great about expensive clothes or expensive jewelry. I just think it's a waste of money for these things. I usually don't care if I have expensive clothes or not.

That last one really vexes me. Why do people assume your intentions or that they KNOW what you meant or are thinking past the literal words that you say.

I hate being called rude or elusive when I am being honest . . . never been anything but honest.

I also don't get double meaning jokes or comments, very well and my friends tend to roll their eyes at me or say "let us know when you catch up". Sometimes I laugh with them even if I dont get it.

I don't understand why people make such a big deal about romantic relationships...or just relationships in general. Say what you really mean to say and you wouldn't have so many problems.

Sports. Enough said.

Makeup/clothes/jewelry.

People who listen to the radio and act like every piece of Top 40 BS is the "next big thing" in music (Adele, Justin Beiber, One Direction, etc etc).