"Autism radar"

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I was gonna post something about "do aspies gravitate towards each other unknowingly." Do we go beyond just recognizing each other...

But yeah, I feel like I see asperger's traits in other people since I've been able to seem them in myself.

I can only see it with *confidence* on children with moderate to severe autism. For Asperger's? Well, I have a couple of suspected, but honestly I really cannot. You certainly cannot go by a nerdy look or behavior, not all AS people fit that sterotype.

Sincerely,
Matthew

I'm perfectly aware that not all aspies fit the "nerd" stereotype. I spend a lot of time around other aspies and have become accustomed to their mannerisms.

^This.

I've never asked anyone, either.

No, I have to say I'm terrible at this. Despite trying, I just can't figure out who is and isn't an aspie.

Yep. Though it takes me a while to identify people higher on the spectrum. I'd have to get to know them. With people lower on the spectrum, it's really easy for me.

But then again, I've always been drawn to "geeks" which tend to have a lot of AS traits but not necessarily enough for a diagnosis. Also sometimes known as "proto-Aspergians". Mixed in with that group, I occasionally find some bona-fide aspies.

For example, in my previous semester of college, I met a guy who was an electrical engineering major. We hung out a few times. I was pretty darn sure he was an aspie the first time we had some one-on-one time together. His special interests were very apparent, little eye contact, very blunt, and refused to buy new shoes even though the soles were worn through, among other things.

I'm very glad for my aspie radar. It's great to have a break from neurotypical social expectations every once in a while. With the particular aspie I mentioned, I barely worried about eye contact, Conversation flowed easily since we were both talking about our interests (most people don't want to talk about their homework), and I didn't have to worry about pleasantries. What a relief!

As I mostly socialize with Aspies, I very rarely have to worry about NTs and their unreasonable social expectations now. I can't really be bothered to conform to them either. Over the years, I've learned how to pick up on their bizarre social ques, fluctuate my tone of voice, talk about their interests even when I find them utterly tedious and I also try to make eye contact with them, but how to they respond? With intolerance, pretentiousness and discrimination. I only make an effort with NTs whom I have judged to be worthy of such an effort and besides, Aspies make for much more enjoyable company anyway!

mainly in retrospect i have aspiedar. a few times i could tell that the person i was speaking with or relating to, had some kind of spectrum quality about them. i remember a few decades back there was this lost little boy who ran up to me and asked me, "do you know where daddy is?" - he spoke in a flat monotone and his eyes were blank, his face devoid of expression. but above all, the thing i homed in on was his NOT saying "MY daddy."