Getting Blanked when talking about Special Interest

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I know, but there was a definite absence of dialogue for a moment. As if she didn't know how to handle what I had said. She must find my interest strange.



Yes, this is the eternal choice. Lately I've been trying to open up more. I remember now why I withdrew in the first place.



This is what is so maddening!! ! I come up with replies all the time for things I find quite tedious; I thought this is what you're supposed to do.

They are not real friends, but fake friends.

When conversing with NT's, I find a good trick is to wait until the course of conversation becomes semi-relevant to an interest of mine before I will jump in with a factoid. At best I provoke an interested coo along with a, what I take to be honest "is that right?"

Other than that, I keep my mouth shut and pretend to tolerate their incessant drivel about sports results and celebrity gossip.

With practice you can steer conversations towards your interest without boring the other party.

Sometimes it is possible to develop an interest in celebrity gossip if you spend enough time looking at newspaper websites and general discussion forums - if you see enough of the celebrity stuff you end up absorbing some of it eventually and you end up being drawn into it a bit (only a bit!).

For example on Celebrity Big Brother I didn't know who half the 'celebrities' were so had to research them, which means you end up having knowledge an NT might not be aware of hence you are able to say somethign that you will find mildly interesting but they will find fascinating! lol
You need to value information/knowledge for it's own sake though as opposed to purely for intellectual/special interest-related content.

Question is, do you really want to?

Even if i could cultivate an interest in it it wouldnt result in friendships of good quality.

It would be good if a popular soap opera or TV drama was to feature an autistic character but this is unlikely to happen.

Yes as I watch celebrity big brother for entertainment and I get a buzz from being able to tell people stuff they didn't know that they find interesting. It's not often I get to tell an NT an 'interesting fact' so it's double points all round when I do!

I don't need something to relate back to autism/Aspergers to find it interesting. The media rarely portrays autism accurately anyway - it's usually exceedingly clichéd. Celebrity stuff can be interesting sometimes depending on your angle of reference. A certain level of overview so you can give AN opinion is always useful anyway to show you aren't completely out of touch with what's going on, whatever your private thoughts on the world of celebrity. I suppose it's what I've always done ie keep myself vaguely aware of what's going on in 'NT land' so I have a resource I can use if necessary.

Most NT's seemingly care only about digesting and then forgetting meaningless information, like a bunch of hungry cows in a pasture (just look at how much they leave behind!!). In this regard, how then would you expect the majority of people to care how the information is presented (HTML, etc)? In other words, if they don't already recognize this kind of topic in 2012, I certainly don't attempt to describe it - and there's not much I could do to get them to enjoy it. And yup, I've been there many times. Now doing it to piss people off, that's a different story

PS: Once you've mastered HTML/CSS you should pick a dynamic web programming language and learn SQL/databases. I liked ColdFusion when I played with it. Like most web languages, it's just a series of special <> tags with simple math comparisons, loops, and a whole lot of logic. You can then use pay webhost that gives you access to many apps, databases, extensions, etc. - which is normally worth the price. BUT, learning the basics of the above will help you understand WHAT it is you are using.

I used to do websites about my special interests, but 50-60 hour workweeks thwarted that idea.

I think sometimes I interject things at inappropriate times and I'm a little too intense about it.


Haha; might as well. Better than not ever saying anything.


Thanks for the tip.

I do this to my family all the time I tell them some piece of information and I know they're not interested, they know that I know they're not interested but I carry on anyway