What are your problems with speech?

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Most of the time I say whatever pops into my head without thinking first. Sometimes thats a bad thing.

However, several people have told me "I like you because you say what everybody else is thinking"

I also have this thing where my "s" come out all staticky sometimes. My youngest daughter had that too but had speech therapy that taught her not to do it. She tried to show me how but really couldn't.

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In spontaneous conversation I often feel as though I'm transcribing my thoughts into words (as if from an entirely self-made abstract way of thinking), and it takes too long. Henceforth I don't talk much.

Sometimes I can't figure out what words I want to say while speaking and sometimes end up saying two words at once. Sometimes I stutter, which I didn't do much when I was younger, not sure why either, it just kind of appeared and got slightly worse as I got older. Sometimes I try to say too many words at once because it's like my mind thinks faster than I can talk and I get all of my words mixed and jumbled together and it sounds like nonsense, so I have to stop, then try to say it a second time.

Lacking social speech.

Seem to still have problems with pronouns too, but that's not really evident.

Oh let's see...

-- I talk WAY too fast, to the point that people at times don't understand what I've said. I've been told that I need to back off on the caffeine.

-- I often speak as if the period/full stop button is missing from my internal keyboard. I'll just go off on a stream of sentences, not stopping until I run out of breath. I've been asked if I ever breathe when I talk.

-- I get a little loud at times. I don't realize I'm talking loud until someone goes "Sshh! Why are you yelling?"

-- My mind goes blank when I'm asked a question on the spot. I've gotten myself in trouble several times because I answered a question off the cuff in a way that I realized was completely wrong when I had time to think about it.

-- My voice goes flat and monotone when a man starts showing interest in me. As long as I think we're just talking, I'm fine. But the moment I realize that he's flirting, I get nervous and start stammering. And then the next thing I say sounds like a machine speaking. Been known to got all mute-y too, although not often.

-- If I meet someone's eyes directly, I forget what I'm saying.

-- I go off on tangents, that may or may not have anything to do with the original topic. Sometimes I get back to what I was saying, but many times I get off the topic so badly that I only realize later that I never made my point.

-- I feel the need to fill in all my conversation with backstory. I start off on a topic, and then start working backwards until I'm three or four topics back.

-- I interrupt -- often. I don't do it to be rude or selfish. I just have a fear that I'm not going to get my point in before the subject matter changes and I've lost my chance.

WOW. I think that's probably enough. But remember...you asked.

My tone is pretty flat and on occasion, my mind locks up while speaking, resulting in either a strange stutter or an equally awkward Sinisean pause.

--lack of voice tone control ( my volume is not always proper its too loud or too soft at random and I am not aware of it most of the time)
--interchanging gender identification in conversation (i use he and she interchangeably a lot)
--delay in formulating responses
---interrupt others without any notion of doing so until it is pointed out
--repetitive use of phrases from television, songs, etc. This one is quite bothersome to some people. I answer a great deal with them.

My speech is overly formal and stilted most of the time, so I come off as arrogant. I also tend to data dump a lot (found myself doing it tonight to a poor fellow employee who now knows more than he would ever want to about running a Geo Metro!). Sometimes I speed up and slow down my speech erratically rather than speak at a constant rate. I also tend to be too self-referential when trying to empathize with the problems of others and this makes me seem self centered to some. I also have difficulty with brevity as I tend to answer more than needed about a particular question. Sometimes though, I end up doing the opposite and come off as being too terse. I also have a very substantial vocabulary and am not afraid to use it! This once again makes me appear arrogant when it is not usually my intention to do so (push me and imply I am not very smart though and I will lay verbal waste to you). I have also been told I speak too loudly at times and I know I speak very softly when I am having one of my (many) depressive episodes. I also have times when it is hard for me to figure out what words I want to say and so I will go silent for a moment while I figure out how to express myself.

My problems with speech is that my voice is a bit off sometimes which makes me sound monotone or boyish. I often interrupt other people without meaning to because I want to say my opinion or comment on something. My pronunciation and my grammar is a little bit off so sometimes I say some words differently. Sometimes, I will speak way too fast and I will not stop talking until I need to take a breath. Thankfully, my parents know what I'm saying. Others, not so much. The volume of my voice is also a problem. Either I talk way too loud or way too quiet. I could sometimes repeat sentences because I assume you did not hear me the first time or I forgot I said it. Also, my words will come out differently then what I meant in my mind. I might talk about random stuff related to the topic that no one really cares for.

Damn it, I never realised that I have more problems with my speech than I thought.

I tend to talk too loudly or soft, if I'm talking about something I'm excited about I suddenly start talking really loudly. I also have a bit of a lisp, but my worst speech problem is repeating and rephrasing my sentences as I speak. Like when I'm talking I'll get halfway through a sentence and realize that I've used the wrong grammar in the relation to the second half of the sentence so I'll start the whole sentence again, that then puts me in a fluster and I make more gramatical errors therefore having to repeats more sentences making me me flustered and sometimes it just spirals out of control and I just give up talking.

Today someone told me I had an accent. Also, I used to have more problems with moving my lips when I talked, I think I've corrected that somewhat. But apparently I have an accent.

And I lecture people and ask them questions and talk about things that other people would say are my special interests forever.