How do you respond to compliments?

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I like them but at the same time I kind of feel like, "Really it's nothing", kind of thing. Almost like I don't deserve it. I kind of brush them off so the focus isn't on me. I feel over flattered by them.

I always experience great discomfort when receiving compliments or congratulations.

Whenever I respond to compliments, I simply say thanks to the person who was complimenting me at the time.

I usually say "Thank you" (if the compliment is obvious enough that I notice it), but I feel embarrassed and often will duck my head and/or blush while I say it.

I like compliments. They can brighten a whole day or even last several days. Sometimes when I am desperate I even like insincere and computer generated ones, like 'due to your outstanding financial standing, we are able to offer you a reduced price on....' I will sometimes sit and read that sort of junk mail over and over until I feel good about myself again.

I also like criticism and negative feedback, even when it's piled on. It kinda means someone at least notices you.

I don't really "register" compliments or praise anymore. I think this has to do with how when my stepmom would come home from work in a stinky mood and take it out on me, she would apologize afterward, and my dad would tell me, "she won't do it again," or "it's going to get better" only for her to do the exact same thing again in the next couple of days.

.....Actually, now that I think of it, she was hardly ever the one to apologize; my dad usually did that on her behalf.

Anyway, after a few years of this, I just got the message that people don't really mean what they say. So if someone said, "I'm really proud of your grade in Spanish," or "Wow, you're good at drawing" I smile politely and thank them but don't really take it on board.

Another thing is that I just don't feel as if I'm a person who's deserving of any compliments, and to receive them makes me uncomfortable.

Since I'm someone who's developed their personality to be as pacifistic as possible, I always find myself complimenting even mediocrity which leads me to believe that all others are willing to compliment something even if it's particularly unspectacular and therefore, it shouldn't be taken seriously. I know it's not true of everyone and every compliment, but I really can't take praise at face value.

I don't like compliments. But I have learned to just say thank you

"Thank you".

Anything more, and I risk embarrassing myself.

Wow thanks! I'm not quite sure what m supposed to do with 1047 blessings but I appreciate the offer.

Add me to the list of people who aren't comfortable with compliments. I've even gotten to where I rarely wear makeup anymore because people act all "WOW! You look REALLY nice!". It embarrasses me, and since I HATE being the center of attention, I just stopped trying. It partially comes fron low self-esteem (thanks Dad) and partially from the number of compliments that made my eyes light up only to find out that the person dishing out the compliment was being sarcastic and cruel and didn't mean a word of it. It got to the point where someone would compliment me and I would say "Thanks, even though I know you don't mean it." These days, I've learned to just say "thank you."