Ever been told you're ugly?

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When I was in Jr High School the kids used to call me "Congo" as in the ugly monkeys from the movie. I was also called Killer Whale, Manatee, Ugly bish . .. etc. I never told I was cute until I was in college, and this was told to me in a "sisterly/brotherly" way.

yes I have and been rejected because of my looks and personality in one case and been told by peoples actions-when you walk up to people and they turn away from you even an autistic person knows what that means without totally understanding body language.

Too much. And it's so damn mean.. Especially when you're a teenager. I just look different, and have problems showing good sides of myself because of AS, but I've still gotten compliments. I don't know what's right though, maybe I'll never understand that.

"If everyone is beautiful to someone, then everyone must be beautiful...


I once told myself that I was ugly, but I was only joking.

Yeah ive been called ugly a few times, ive also been told im handsome by my mother..

I think there is a tendency these days to try and state that 'beauty' is an entirely particularised subjective perception from the vantage point of one subject and thus we can have statements like 'everybody is beautiful to someone, therefore everybody is beautiful'. Its a comforting thought process but is pretty inconsistent with regards to most peoples behavioural attributes when confronted with someone who is either a) approaching a 'universal' standard of beauty or b) approaching a 'universal' standard of ugliness. All things being equal, Brad Pitt is almost infinately likely to be treated as a 'beatiful person' in his interactions with other human beings in contradistinction to john merrick who is likely to be treated as a horrific entity.

And as someone more towards to john merrick end of the spectrum, im obviously pretty bitter

I kind of decided that I must be ugly when I was very young....I would look in a mirror and be very taken aback by what I saw, and would think, "Wow, I don't look like any of the other girls at my school...no wonder they don't want anything to do with me." I think part of what contributed to my appearance was my unusually expressive brown eyes, large eyebrows, and unusually shaped head.

My stepmother, while never saying it right out, sort of reinforced the idea that I was ugly during my teen years when she was constantly telling me to use different kinds of soap to get rid of my very normal acne...it was nuts; it was like she needed it to go away RIGHT NOW. She still sort of reinforces it now by complaining about my weight whenever she gets the chance, and a couple of years ago without my input, she made an appt for me to see a facial hair removal specialist. All my facial hair is back now, so a fat lot of good that did me.

My experience has been the opposite. Three former aquaintances from my childhood and teen years came right out and told me I was ugly. One was an overweight lesbian who looked like a cross between the two Indigo Girls, minus their best feautures. Number 2 was a gay kid who, while not bad looking, openly admitted he was cuter when he was a little boy. The third was a portly chick with an astigmatism and odd nose who fancied herself to be pretty.

The weird thing was is I had a fling in college with a classically good-looking frat boy type of dude who never dissed me for my face. My odd aspie behaviours pissed him off and his narcissism pissed me off, so our wild affair only lasted three days, but he never told me I was an ug. He made me feel ugly with our break-up, but that was a different thing altogether. I will admit, the pretty folks will make you feel ugly, especially if they're rude/unkind/unpleasant etc.

The way I feel at the moment I don't care what anyone thinks about me - I give up trying to impress anyone or search for a relationship. Everyone can get lost, I'm having at least a year of celibacy and may stick to it permanently as the average human being just isn't worth it!
All the 'good looking' people can piss each other off and leave me alone.

Oh, I've been called ugly many, many times that I've lost count.

I've run the gamut from being called "ugly" to "cute" to "pretty" to "striking" to "good-looking woman."

The day I'm called "old," well, I imagine that day will come soon enough. lol

I've been called ugly before... Don't care. I've also been called good looking, in a variety of ways. Everyone has their preferences.

I get more offended when someone looks at me out of attraction rather when someone looks at me for the opposite reason.

I refrain from using the term, myself. It just seems so insulting to call somepony ugly because I *personally* am not attracted them. Most people seem to forget that not everyone has the same tastes.

Well, yes of course I've been called ugly! Kids will be terrible from time to time, but I like the way I look, so in those situations I enjoy making a public scene by laughing hysterically at the name-caller.

I don't think many people have outright called me ugly except male friends in the insulting each other bonding type situations that male friendship groups do sometimes. In situations where, for example, somebody has alluded to the fact that a certain woman might have been interested in me then the response from the woman has often made it clear that while not outright saying I am ugly that it is exactly what she meant.

It's one thing I'm not too concerned about. I *know* I am not ugly. I may not be most people's preferred type of man aesthetically but that's not really of any concern to me. I am not attracted to every woman I meet and I even think some women who others find attractive are "ugly" so it's perfectly reasonable to expect that other women (or men) might feel the same way about me sometimes so I don't consider it to be an issue. I can understand how this might be a lot more hurtful to some other people though; for example those who are very self conscious about their appearance or those who have had little/no romantic experience as I suppose it could result in quite a complex with of course would hurt your confidence which makes it even more difficult to get on in that area of life.

I would never tell somebody they are ugly - I used to say things like that all the time as a child though haha. It was never explained to me in a way that I understood that it wasn't ok to make comments on things like people's appearance or mannerisms. Nowadays I will never make a negative comment about somebody's appearance unless it is somebody I know and previous experience tells me they will actually appreciate my honesty. I never used to be able to do compliments at all - they would always just come off as creepy - but as I have gotten older I think that well placed and non-creepy compliments are one aspect of social interaction which I have mastered.

edit: This reminded me of when a friend of mine came out of the closet. We had all known he was gay all along, it was the least suprising closet-emergence ever. Anyway, he got really drunk and was hitting on another of my friends and telling the others their order of attractiveness according to him. As he got to me he told me "You don't need to worry Sean". Even though I am straight and even though if I was gay I would NOT be going with this guy I was still a bit insulted :p

I was called that once by a girl when I was 14.

She was angry that I wasn't a social butterfly and didn't worship her like everyone else. The irony is, I'd had a crush on her going back 5 years.