Dirty dishes - nothing short of torture

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I don't mind them....... I use the dishwasher primarily; but if it is not dishwasher-safe, I don't mind washing them by hand, really.

Dishes and trash are the bane of my existence. My husband cooks better than I do so he's the chef in our kitchen and I'm the dishwasher/garbage boy.

They bother me, but not to this extent. I am ok as long as they are scraped off and dry. If they haveabnch of stuff on them or if someone put them in the sink and got them wet (but they are still dirty) then I have some issues.

My mother detested dirty dishes. Probably not as bad as you but mostly we use paper plates and cups growing up. I remember.... several times on a big holiday she threw away the roasting pan for the bird rather than cleaning it. Nice roasting pan too, not a cheapy. I suspect it was too disgusting for her to try to clean it.

My mother told me often that she'd live without a washing machine rather than give up her dishwasher, she just hated washing dishes so much!

If you are that bothered by them, why not just purchase disposable cutlery, cups, bowls and plates? Sure, it may not be exactly environmentally friendly, but if dirty dishes are that offensive, then why not go disposable?

One feature I would recommend for a kitchen built for someone on the spectrum: Two dishwashers. You never have to put away dishes because you empty one and fill the other.

WOW. In fact everyone should have that! Shame so many of us also have very tiny kitchens.

I have my own way of dealing with them. Every dish I put in my sink (my kitchen does not have a dishwasher) is pre-rinsed to get all of the food particles off of it. This way they do not attract insects and can be cleaned with a simple wipe instead of relentless scrubbing. Sometimes I go a week or more without washing them, but they are so clean that it simply does not matter.

That's a brilliant idea.

I have seen kitchens with two dishwashers.

I suspect that the reason they had two dishwashers was based on the amount of entertaining the homeowners did.

That is what I plan to do when my mother is gone. I don't do dishes at all.

I also plan to use the microwave a lot so I don't have to wash dirty pots.

It is good for entertaining but it is also a feature of my "dream house" for people on the spectrum. For example, if I were to do this to my mother's house I would have the KitchenAid in its usual location but also install a lower priced GE or Whirlpool in the pantry to keep the cost reasonable. It could even have a bar sink in there too! Now aren't we brilliant to think of something like that? I would also have a Kohler SmartDivide sink - its a double sink but the divider only comes up partway so you can wash something bulky and it is porcelain-coated cast iron - colorful and not depressing like stainless steel. Tell me, I thought people on the spectrum were not creative but why am I coming up with kitchen designs? Oh, and don't have so many dishes to begin with, have only enough for the people who live in the house. Won't have so many to deal with and you will have to wash them.

i have acknowledged your reply, but i have no words to contribute to your statement.

i have always used disposable plates because dirty plates are more acceptable if they can be simply thrown away. my mother used to complain about my laziness before she died, but i can spend my time more productively than assigning my self to cleaning plates.

i wish she was still alive so she could tell me why. i never thought to ask her why when she was alive because i simply disagreed and took no notice of her.

now i realize in a blunt and primitive way why she was how she was..


it is not good to lose ones parents before one can glean from their experience in a mature way.

I wear gloves and use a brush

No, I don't like dirty dishes but I can touch them, it's no big deal.

However, my mom said I used to be indifferent to any kind of punishement as a teen except... doing the dishes. I hated it and she would use it as a punishment.

I hate dirty dishes but I hate washing them even more. Luckily I've got an NT husband who does it. I'd like to get a dishwasher but 1) there's no space in my studio and 2) my husband says he doesn't mind washing them so he's reluctant to pay for a dishwasher.

I especially hate when people leave cat food remnants.