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Mirror21
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05 Oct 2012, 5:08 pm

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I have to point out, also, that I am a girl as well, and thus she compares us I think, even if she does not mean to. Why can she have common sense and not I? I am a woman, not a man and I should just have more of it. I have heard her say.

She will not listen about ASD, at all. I can understand she is tired of being so supportive. I have seen a few doctors, none of them have helped.


That is a really big problem. Not accepting to talk about ASD and at the other end asking to behave more normally.
That is really frustrating...


It is very frustrating.



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05 Oct 2012, 9:50 pm

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I can't quite put my finger on it but I find myself offended by that list. Perhaps it's just because it's taken out of context but it fails to see the view from both sides.
I agree with you there. It's like they make the basic assumptions that: 1. If something is wrong in an AS/NT relationship, it must be due to the Asperger's; 2. The AS partner does not suffer due to these problems, but the NT partner always does; 3. These problems are not solvable except by changing the AS partner's behavior.

Those are all three untrue, of course.


That was my take on it as well. I also agree that a lot of the things mention ed happen in NT relationships, especially if their are disabilities/ challenges present. A bit off- topic, but as its the 10 year anniversary of the bali bombing - I don't think (m)any of us would understand the repercussions of living with a partner with serious burns, unless we had been there. It doesn't mean the "unburnt " partner shouldn'try.
It's not like the burnt person is being burnt on purpose, and that often seems to be the implication of lists like this. IMO. " You're just acting burnt. You could be un-burnt if you only tried hardr"



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05 Oct 2012, 10:18 pm

Opal I like our comparison!



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06 Oct 2012, 4:00 am

opal wrote:
You're just acting burnt. You could be un-burnt if you only tried hardr"


Maybe the other one should burn himself instead? ... :lol:
No just kidding.

I like this idea. Though, I feel, there are quite many things that you can do as an aspie.
And this is maybe not the actual really problem.
Just that nobody understands you. Or that you are not able to make you understood.
This now is much worse...

And then there are many vicious circles.
And an aspie is usually running around in at least one of them...

The NT person will not even understand why this is a vicious circle at all....