People Taking Me Seriously When Joking

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Yeah,

jokes beyond taste. I like them but nobody else.

And jokes about myself. If I tell them that I am crazy they'll believe it ... For real.
I perceive myself as funny crazy but they'll think I am crazy crazy.

If I were some different guy they'd perceive this differently.

I can't offer you substantial advice, as I myself am very bad at conveying jokes to other people. It is as other posters have said in this thread; body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice make a world of difference.

I'd encourage you to simply continue the way you are now, because where it concerns people you have continuous dealings with (e.g. relatives, friends, coworkers, classmates), they should get used to your sense of humour and come to recognise when you're joking or bantering, or not.

As for others, strangers for example, they'll simply have to learn. It's not like you mean to hurt or confuse anyone when your joking, so I'd advice you to explain that it's only a joke if they don't get it at first. Don't worry that it insults their intelligence; I have been on the receiving end of jokes in the past, where I was the party who didn't understand that it was a joke. Most people were patient enough to assure me that it was, in fact, a joke in those situations. If they actually do feel that you think they're dumb because you have to explain the joke to them, smile and say you don't think they're dumb. Remember that, if a message doesn't come across clearly at first, it doesn't hurt to clarify. And in due time, whoever is at first having some trouble with your style of joking and bantering, they'll get to know it soon enough. Just keep on keeping on.

I make myself laugh when I joke. Or just simply tell them "It was a joke" after you tell it.

It's the same for me, especially in debates. Sometimes I will take a side on an issue that reflects my own opinion and on other occasions, I will play "Devil's Advocate" just for the sake of it or for a bit of strange humor (which evidently nobody else but myself understands). I am seriously considering using a special facial expression (or font when involved in online debates) to convey that I'm joking/not serious. Telling others "it's just a joke" after the fact makes one look like they are attempting to backpeddle out of an unpleasant situation, much like what a politician or celebrity does after saying something unpopular.

I feel like if anything people would take me less seriously about things, but they end up taking me more seriously. When I make jokes in a certain way, people always think that I am serious. By the time I realize it, it isn't funny anymore when I tell them I'm joking. According to my friends though, I seem to have an "esoteric" sense of humor.

They do that to me too.

And they expect me to find their own unfunny jokes as jokes.

Weird double standard.

I used to have this issue when I was younger. I think that may be a reason I don't really joke with anyone anymore.

On the other hand, I can say something, not trying to be funny, and people will burst out laughing

I have joked in the same way as others do, but still got took seriously. But I think it's also double-standards. Take this for example:-

(NT 1 spills an Aspie's drink)
Aspie: Aww, look what you've done! You've spilt my drink everywhere now!
NT 1: Everywhere? Even in France?
Aspie: It was just a figure of speech. Jesus!
NT 2 (to Aspie): He was just joking, to make you feel better.

(Aspie spills NT 1's drink)
NT 1: Aww, look what you've done! You've spilt my drink everywhere now!
Aspie: Everywhere? Even in France?
NT 1: It was just a figure of speech. Jesus!
NT 2 (to Aspie): That wasn't the right thing to say in this situation. Yes I know you were just joking, but it only works when people are feeling in the right mood.

^ that made me laugh

How's your inflection or body language? If one or both are flat, that could be why people are taking you seriously.

I get that too. Deadpan humour works only if the audience already knows you to be funny. I can crack my wife up but, when it comes to people I don't know very well, the jokes miss and eyebrows get raised.

lol, I've thought about doing this!


I think I have to either not joke, and try to have regular conversation, or really tone it down..... but yeah, when I'm around old friends, the jokes get pretty sick....we're all trying to gross or freak each other out, which you can't do with people you just met, or aren't comfortable with.

Oh gad been there too many times to be anything close to rational about it. It just ticks me off so much. Yes, we are always held to another standard. That's my experience anyway.
This blogger (although mosty talking about bullying) says it like it is: http://blog.elmindreda.org/2006/02/some ... i-live-by/

I have the same problem

Think you need to deliver the punchline with a sly shi# eating smile. Seems to work for them.

I'm abit of a joker I get called cheeky sometimes. I don't say jokes, I play jokes on people not bad jokes, good jokes and not ones that go out of control that upset anyone or someone finds affensive that they need to ring the police. I like to say silly comments sometimes while watching a movie at home and imitate actors and what they say in a movie or imitate a cartoon character. I wear shirts with funny sayings on it and have funny pictures from Star Wars, Star Trek, Doctor Who and different Movies which I put over facebook and send to friends. I don't understand NTs playing jokes on people. I know most of the time when they play a joke on someone it is to bully that person be nasty or for a vandetta which is mean. I play a joke on someone to be funny and make them smile and be happy not to be mean.

Hi, thanks for your comments .

The thing is, I do change my tone of voice, so that at-least I think I sound less serious, and I try to make it clear with my body language that I'm being silly. I also smile, and laugh a little when telling a joke, but people still think I'm being serious.