Board index › General Discussion › General Autism Discussion

home as a refuge from the chaos that is grocery shopping

Page 2 of 2 [ 21 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2

Previous topic | Next topic

MaKin
Sea Gull
Sea Gull

User avatar

Joined: 5 Aug 2011
Age: 62
Gender: Female
Posts: 246

04 Nov 2012, 6:08 pm

Keyman wrote:
It's like asking a scorpion to stop stinging. It's just the way they are. However humans can suppress urges. But it requires will power.


I like your analogy! I have a serious interest in scorpions.

Perhaps he's got to want to suppress his talkativeness and simply finds it more important to talk at a time when I'm somewhat weakened than give me a few moments. ouch.



Ann2011
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 Jul 2011
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,843
Location: Ontario, Canada

04 Nov 2012, 6:20 pm

MaKin wrote:
I often can't tell when I'm supposed to pay attention to him or not!
But, yes, he's engaging conversation that I'm supposed to take interest in, and respond to when I get in from town.


That is so annoying. I have someone in my life who babbles on endlessly and insists that I comment. Fortunately I don't live with him.

MaKin wrote:
Perhaps he's got to want to suppress his talkativeness and simply finds it more important to talk at a time when I'm somewhat weakened than give me a few moments. ouch.


He could just not be able to help himself. I wouldn't take it that he doesn't care.


_________________
People are strange, when you're a stranger
Faces look ugly when you're alone.
Morrison/Krieger


Who_Am_I
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 27 Aug 2005
Age: 42
Gender: Female
Posts: 12,632
Location: Australia

04 Nov 2012, 8:01 pm

Why can't you just unpack the shopping, then go straight to your bedroom and shut the door?


_________________
Music Theory 101: Cadences.
Authentic cadence: V-I
Plagal cadence: IV-I
Deceptive cadence: V- ANYTHING BUT I ! !! !
Beethoven cadence: V-I-V-I-V-V-V-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I
-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I! I! I! I I I


Keyman
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 23 Feb 2012
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 443

04 Nov 2012, 8:46 pm

With hearing protection ;)

Leave it to your husband to unpack? :P



nessa238
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2011
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,908
Location: UK

05 Nov 2012, 2:27 am

I wouldn't be able to tolerate living with such a person in the first place so the shopping problem wouldn't occur. I have been out with a 'babbler' in the past and once told them to stop talking so much while we were going round the supermarket, which he took offence at and said ok I won't say anything then but I meant it less in a literal way and more in a 'don't talk so much, I can't concentrate on what I'm doing' type way. Talkers can't understand this though. You can't change people so you have to either adapt to them or find someone else to live with/live alone.