Fantasizing about murdering my neighbours

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As long as it remains a fantasy...
How many times do people end up behind a slow/erratic/d-bag driver and say "I want to kill this S.O.B so bad" or the like?
How many times have you been annoyed with a coworker/employer/another person to the point you say "I swear, if they (insert annoying action) again, I'm going to kill them?"
If "normal" people say things of this nature, I'm sure nobody's terribly concerned, so long as the individual doesn't show any signs of following through with their "threat."

So you are having violent fantasies regarding your neighbours just because they happen to bang their doors now and again?

Wow!

I've had door banging neighbors before. I think most either don't realize how loud it is and/or they think they have to shut it that hard to get it to shut right.

I know where your coming from. I have neighbours who slam their front doors so hard everyday twice a day its amazing that their door hasn't fallen off they do it to bully and upset one of us neighbours for some petty reason it drives me nuts hearing the bang it scares the living daylights out of me everytime. They also start fire alarms, car alarms, rev their engines every morning which damages the engine, talk about not only me but other neighbours constantly out loud out the front carpark swearing. They also play loud bass 24/7.

You said you sent them a note; how specific was it?
You should probably tell them something like, "I have a medical condition that makes my ears very sensitive to loud noises, so if you can, please be a little quieter when you shut the door."
That gets across the important part (you're not just being a grouch) without telling them too much. Also, if you can speak to them face to face they might be more willing to listen.

I am also sensitive to loud noises and always have been but I live in an apartment building and not on a deserted island. That means that you have to put up with noises coming from your neighbours from time to time. It is a matter of give and take. As long as they are not slamming their doors or drill holes in the wall in the middle of the night it is best to be a bit reasonable. I don't know what the situation is of the person who started this thread ofcourse, so I'm not judgemental or anything, but you can't flare up every time your neighbours are producing some noise or have a disagreement with one another.

I have a downstairs neighbour who started a procedure against me and ultimately made me get a new expensive floor just because I vacuum my hous once a week at a reasonable time. Absolutely ludicrous and crazy! That may be the reason why I am taking a different stance on the matter but nonetheless.

Ive had this too and had major breakdowns from it- a shutdown lasting about 3 years.

I have extreme sensory sensativities and never realised it til i moved into this flat; everwhere else had thick walls. This is made of paper evidently.

I know exactly how you feel~ it just jarred me with every slam, bang, raised voice or thumping beat- then slowly made me fade away. Its horiffic.

I think fantasising about murdering people is pretty common when you feel out of control- it really doesnt mean you're likely to do anything. Ive wanted to kill my sister for about 30 years and shes still alive

Anyway, if you cant move there are a few things you could do. Sound proofing is relativly cheap for one room, and you can do it yourself. There are lots of different foams and boards, depending on your flat's walls/ ceilings/floors.

If its sparse already you can try adding thick rugs, curtains etc. for me its the physical vibrations i experiance as much as the sudible sound- fabrics and belongings suck up sound vibrations a bit.

Hypnotherapy- im about to give this ago as i cant cope much longer with the stress i have from noise and vibration. Its taken a while to find someone i trust to do it; some refused as they dont know enough about AS, others clearly had NO idea what they were talking about and couldve been dangerous.
Hopefully i will be able to tone things down a bit- sound, and its associated vibrations, are the most crippling aspect of my AS- my neighbours have made my life worthless

Hope you can fix your problem soon.
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It's perfectly natural to fantasize about harming people who have upset you - it's a safety valve to prevent you from actually doing it. You should look for somewhere else to live as noisy people generally aren't open to reason and if they think they are annoying you they'll tend to do it all the more. Could you wear ear plugs or headphones to block out the noise or put your own music on loud to give them a taste of their own medicine?

There's a website called 'Neighbours from Hell' where they give advice on this type of thing:-

http://www.nfh.org.uk/

At the very least you will see that your own problem pales in comparison to what some others are going through with their neighbours! I use the site to remind myself how lucky I am not to be living next door to some of the examples given!

If you have noisy neighbors and do that I would think one of two things would happen. Either they wouldn't care because they are so noisy that noise doesn't bother them or they'll feel even more justified in what they are doing because you are bothering them too.

For example, that neighbor that complained about me walking on the floor isn't completely perfect himself. He has used the dryer in the upstairs hall after 9 or 10 PM when I'm trying to sleep. He at least turns the buzzer off but it's next to my bedroom and you can hear it running.