Feeling dissatisfied with my current therapy. Am I right?

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Let me be clear. You are not the problem that requires an intervention. The world is the problem? Got it?

The sucky truth, I've discovered, is that men are taken much less seriously than women when it comes to claims of harassment. I've heard and read about this happening before. It's clear evidence, to my way of thinking, of how sexism hurts men. Men have to force each other to "toughen up and take it" in order to reinforce the pecking order. This, in turn, helps them maintain the hierarchy as it relates to everyone else. In other words, the attitude you face with your therapist (if you still go there anymore by now) was brought to you by the same minds that decided keeping women under heel was a great idea. You have my sympathy.

Don't let anyone tell you to just "get over" stepping on your neck. This makes me angry! Just dump this therapist off, if you haven't already, and make sure you only go with someone who really listens to you. My guess is that a decent therapist will find this last one's attitude appalling.

Let us know if you find somebody better. I'll be really happy for you.

I was trying to explain what I believe must be alexithymia (emotional blindless) to my counsellor like this:

Me: "...like rather than having, say, a specific identifiable feeling of grief, I would just feel anxiety as an uncomfortable tightness in my chest and have to intelectually work out that it was grief because of some particlar loss that coincides."

Councellor: "So, what do you think you are grieving about?"

Honestly, either I am speaking greek or she has just given up and stopped trying to even listen.

it is a different language. when you presented it that way, your concern clicked for me. 'over intellectualizing' as a 'defense mechanism' is something that was 'worked on' in my former treatment. well...my logic is what im working with over here and the process of me making my best attempt to understand relationships is not because i am 'afraid to feel.'

my partner at my old job was from another country and he would tell me jokes or use idioms that sincerely did not make any sense at all, but i could see that he enjoyed them as though he was satisfied that his point was communicated well. that is how i felt in therapy. as though my therapist was always figuring that he 'came upon' the correct disfunction to address the problem.

what you are going through is like explaining difficulty in making eye contact as a social anxiety issue issue because you believe as though you are 'not good enough' (thats cbt), when occams razor (over time) will tell us that a social understanding or a sensory issue is a more appropriate explanation and the kicker is that it requires a different intervention.

go ahead and take your cell phone to get fixed by your mechanic and see how that goes. broken is broken, right? nope.