I'm 15, but think like a little kid?

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I feel like a child these days and even my own husband says I am like a teen and child. In my teens, I was like a pret teen or kid. I still wear clothes I had from when I was in high school and I prefer cartoon character clothes or childish looking clothes. I am still fascinated by toys but I don't play with them. I will sometimes buy them because they are vintage and never been opened but I end up not opening them myself because it feels too valuable. Other times I feel adult because I go to work, I drive, I clean, I like reading thriller books and books on my ebook, I like video games, but I was doing all those things (minus the ebook and going to work) in high school. But even then part of me was an adult so my responsibilities ranged in late twenties and the rest of me was below the age level like with my emotions and social skills. Plus I had childish interests and liked childish things. I still do but I don't watch much TV anymore these days or buy things for myself that are childish. I just don't want clutter is why.

Lost contact with playmates my age around 11 years. Now i am 33 years old, and still love star wars, computer games, fantasy books and so on.

When i was around 25 i had a "Now i gotta start to be earnest, so that other respect me etc..." Phase. Ended with a depression because of putting all my energy into things i do not care myself, but others did, and the things that make me happy and bring me energy i forbid myself. Completely dumb.

So now i am 33 year old, i still read Disney comics, which is very relaxing to me and nobody gets hurt from that. So i do not care any longer, if someone thinks he must force himself of being disturbed because of me being childish but unharming.

Anyway, you could discuss endlessly whats childish and whats not. I renewed the old house of my grand aunt with the money i saved in my childish way because of no interest in childish car status symbols, childish cloth status symbols, childish hair styling status symbols, childish going to party every weekend, childish buying every s**t society expects me too and so on.

Its your life and noone but you yourself will care, if its a happy life. So as long as no other people are involved by force, just accept your own needs and care for them, no matter if its childish or not.

Same for me. I am 15, but people say I look very childish: my parents say I sometimes act like a 6-years-old, but that I usually act like a 10/11/12 years old. I remember someone saying when I was 11 that I act in a more immature way than a child of 7.

I am very adaptable. I can act like a big kid when I'm with little kids, and I can act like a teenager when with teenagers, and I can act my age when with others my age, and I can act a bit like a man when I'm with other men, and so forth. Usually my mind is mentally my own age, but it can vary depending on the environment and what sort of people are around me.

I'm 22 and, according to my mom, I act like a 14 - 16 year old. And for some reason she says that I act even younger (like 10 - 12) when I'm having my period. My dad says that some aspects of my personality are like an adult's and other aspects are like a child's. The target demographic of my favorite movies/shows kind of reflects this, because the movies and shows I like range from children's movies and shows like Pirates of the Caribbean, Disney/Pixar's Brave and My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic to definitely-not-family-friendly things like Sweeney Todd, Girl With the Dragon Tattoo and Fight Club.

Most of the time I feel like a child trapped in an adult's body, though. My bedroom is decorated much like a child's with bright colors all around and toys on every shelf. In fact, the only reason why I haven't added to my toy collection recently is because I ran out of room to put them!

However, just because I behave like a child doesn't mean I enjoy being around real children. In fact, I am jealous of the children of my family (my nieces and nephews) because they are still considered cute, sweet and innocent. My mom has also pointed out that because I am no longer (physically) a child, I fear being pushed to the side or forgotten altogether in favor of my nieces and nephews.

I'm 30 acting pretty like a 15!

My girlfriend, that is 31, call me "Big Baby"!

At times I can be all over the map. When I was in the 3-8 range. my parents often were complimented on how well-behaved and mature I was for my age. In high school, I was one of three to be voted "Acts Most Like An Old Man" in my graduating class. I worked at a Starbucks when I was 19 and one of our regular customers thought I was in my mid 30's.

But at the same time, throughout middle school I mostly hung out around younger kids, tossing the football around with a group of third graders after school often when I was in 7th and 8th grade, playing street hockey with middle schoolers in my neighborhood when I was in high school, stuff like that. And often I felt like even those around my age in high school and college always seemed to treat me like I was younger than them. I often grow a beard or goatee so people stop thinking I'm in high school.

My wife, when we were first together, often noticed it too, saying that at times it's almost like I never left my late teens or early 20's. Even now, I have some regressive moments. I'm 28 and feel most at-east around those in the 18-22 range or 35 and up. I just don't feel right when it comes to those close to my age. Never have, probably never will.

I'm in my thirties, and am still mistaken for a teenager. Although I've been working at a college, I spend more social time with the students or the older faculty. I've always been more comfortable with people who are either much younger or much older than myself. My mother said I was an "old soul," but was also very frustrated by my apparent inability to "act my age / grow up".

When I was in middle school, my parents were concerned because they knew most of my friends were three or four years behind me in school, and that I would go through most of high school without them. So they, and a concerned teacher, tried to talk me into spending more time with my exact peers, so that I would have less of an adjustment when I started at high school. From my perspective, the kids in my grade were the ones who had shut ME out--I was always the last picked for the team, the one sitting alone in the lunchroom (until the younger grades came in), and the one on the outside of the crowd at recess. I remember being very upset with my parents, and feeling very alienated--I had struggled to make ANY friends, and somehow those friends I had attained weren't acceptable to my parents. When I went to high school, the friends I made were not usually ones I had known from middle school anyway. And now that I'm an adult, those kids who were several grades behind me are now, for most purposes, considered to be part of my peer group. So what was the point???

I think it is more important for people with AS to develop the social skills they need with the people they feel comfortable around, regardless of age differences. Would it be legitimate to insist that we associate only with people of our own culture, or ethnic group, or gender? Age should not determine who we appreciate and befriend, any more than those descriptors. Interacting with people we like, regardless of differences, allows us to develop the skills we need to succeed.