Do any of you pretend Christmas doesn't happen?

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The whole season, and especially decorations, can be confusing for them. I don't like to dangle things that look like toys but which they're not allowed to play with. It just seems rather tortuous from their perspective.

Yes, they can't work out what the hell's going on! When my cats have been kittens they've tried to climb the tree or knocked the decorations off it - I didn't mind though as it was funny to watch.

Haha, it's great that you were okay with that. If I had people-kids, I'd probably go all out for the holidays, but with cat-kids I just try to keep things fun for them.

Xmas lights, cold nights meaning big coats and scarves, not many ppl on teh streets at night - love hate relationship here.
The day is meaningless, most of my family dont meet up with each other, prefering isolated dinners.
Too many ppl in the shops, too much noisy xmas music.
But its a pretty season, i love snow, i love the lights, i love the feeling of being wrapped up and invisible cept for my nose and eyes

Well thank you.

But I honestly cannot remember my last "happy" Christmas. Decorating does not help. My Christmas tree is always empty. No one writes, calls, or bothers to greet. If someone just left a lump of coal under the Christmas tree, I might be happy.

Do you see family or friends at all over Christmas?

I spend it with my friend who I live with and we have my father who has Alzheimer's over on Christmas Day

It's not the same since my Mother passed away as we used to spend Christmas at my parents house and my brother and his wife would be there with their children as well but since my mother passed away my brother has made it pretty clear he doesn't want to spend any time with us if he can help it and I've got so fed up of his snotty attitude that I'm not going to give him and his family the presents I've brought them this year. I've cut contact as they seem to think I'll endlessly buy presents for them even though we only see my brother several times a year at most when he makes flying visits to see my father and I never even get a thank you note from his children for the presents I get them. So they can learn the valuable lesson of No thank yous, No more presents!

So Christmas is just me, my friend who I live with and my father and the rest of the family can get stuffed as far as I'm concerned! I generally send cards to people who send me one but to be quite honest fail to see the point in it all if you never see the people the rest of the year - it's just a pretence of contact.

Perhaps I'll send them cards telling them all what I really think of them this year! lol

Family, yes.

Friends? Over time they will just slowly disappear once they meet interesting people. As a young adult, I have learned to accept that as a part of life.

But, being forgotten is awful. No amount of growing up will ever make that go away.

It depends on who is the one doing the forgetting in my opinion

Most people aren't worth the effort of maintaining contact with anyway in my experience

As I'm only 17, I still end up getting dragged everywhere.

While I like the presents and stuff; if it gets too crazy I just leave the room entirely and try and find a bedroom to sleep in.

For me, it's just immediate family household, a sister and a few friends. It's just too much to make a big family ordeal out of it anymore. I love the flame, smell and "Snap-Crackel" of a wood burning fireplace on a cold night, brings the childhood giddyness back.

I don't care about stuff like that. It means nothing to me and I hate getting gifts.

No. Christmas is my favourite holiday. I've always loved Christmas, so that's not an option for me.

I would love to skip it if I could figure out how. I find the glut of buying to be disturbing as a sociological phenomenon and painful financially. LOL

I do like my sparkle tree though.... I would need to come up with some excuse to still go ahead and put up my sparkle tree.

I ignore it as much as I can. It takes a toll no matter what I do; if I isolate myself then I suffer from the isolation and the holiday season still manages to find ways to get into my life, and if I socialize then I'm forced into exposure to holiday-related interactions on a regular basis.

After surviving it all, I'm an emotional cripple during January and February, which isn't helped by the low light levels, the cold, and the fact that my birthday is in January and Valentine's Day (the worst day ever) is in February.

Pretty much this. Last year I was lucky and was able to just sit on my PC all day because I was miles away from my family. A single text was enough to keep them off my back. This year it wont be so easy to get away from. I am planning on just getting drunk and trying to avoid anything too annoying.

I love Christmas, it's my favourite time of year even in spite of the stress of shopping and relatives and all the hooplah surrounding it. It's rather sad, as I've grown up, it's started feeling less and less special, and nothing I do seems to be able to bring that old feeling back, no matter how hard I try every year. This year I'm determined to make it as good as it was when I was a kid, no matter what it takes.