I've noticed there are two types of people with AS.

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I'm more like both kind of leading to the right side.

I'm the second one. If I tried to fit in, I'd go mad from keeping all my weirdness in!

i'm pretty new to the whole AS thing, so i'm not really sure i've established my take on it all just yet!

but it really depends where i am...

with people that i (try to) socialize with in my own time... i'm more type two... cause hey, they're gonna figure out that something's up anyway, lol.

but at work (lab at my uni).. i don't exactly go around broadcasting that i (may) have AS... i try my best to fit in and do my work. it's kind of hard at times cause i have to have high-tech conversations with people (thank the god(s) that be, that I can usually get away with taking notes and drawing diagrams while talking to these people!)

so i guess it's a bit of both for me too

Depends on my mood and what phase I'm going through. Sometimes I'm extremely on one side, at other things, it's at a moderate level.

All I know, is that Jesus loves me.

I'd say that I'm a mixture of both; I want people to be happy, and I do enjoy making people happy, but not at the expense of my true self. There are some people whom I can make happy just by being my goofy strange self, and those are the people I like to have around me!

I've known for years that if I fake it (i.e. hide my true self and be more outgoing and talkative and stuff) then I can attract more people, but I was always so tired and unhappy at the end of the day, and used to wonder why. It was terrible to be angry and upset all of the time, I had no more energy to do my work properly, resulting in my falling behind in schoolwork. "Mysteriously," once I stopped faking it, my attitude improved considerably and I became more productive at work! All those goodtime friends also just left me once I showed my true self, but I don't care... f*** them.

I used to be the first, now I am more of the second.

I'm mostly the 2nd type but sometimes I worry about not fitting in. Even if I try and act normal some people still look at me as if I'm an alien so I then think maybe it is too much of a hassle putting myself out to fit in.

I'm inclined to agree. I genuinely like pleasing people, but I have reached a point where I'm not going to change who I am to do it.

No, because they aren't prepared to change who they are to accommodate us. Actually, they shouldn't have to change who they are but it would be nice if they would try and understand a bit more. They expect us to understand the NT point of view all the time and that is something we can find almost impossible at times.

I don't think we should generalize about what other people expect. I think we should treat other people as individuals. After all, we want to be treated as individuals, right?

I can only be me. I do not have the option of acting NT. Yes i do expect people to tolerate me or I avoid them. I consider myself a likeable person but I rub some people
the wrong way. Most would clearly see I'm processing the world different (insane in their eyes). I have only wanted in the past to change myslef enough to get a GF. But since I like being alone so much now I'm not interested in change at all(I'm not here
for support to become more NT).

I am who I am, but I change how I act socially so people see the real me.
It's pretty much in between.

I always thought I had some contradictory characteristics.On the one hand,I had a low self-esteem but on the other ,I resented parents or boyfriends attempts to change me.I wanted to change and improve "myself",but based on my own values and my own time table.I dont want to be a "social butterfly,dress fashionably" but I would like to be less selfish, more intelligent and more emotionally stable,physically healthy....these are things I try and change in myself but the motivation has to be internal....external motivation just makes me fight back....end up doing things against my own interest just to avoid not being controlled.I think I have a "fragile" sense of self and doing what others wants makes me feel like I am drowning and at risk of losing any sense of self....does this make sense?

Yep, to me it does anyway. I am pretty much the same there.

I've gone through phases, personally. At times, when I was sick out feeling like an outcast, I would become more accommodating and try to hide my differences... that never really panned out, though; as much as I've tried, I've always come off as a little off-center. This is pretty unhealthy, and I'm beginning to beleive that this way of stifling my natural behavior has caused much of the depression and anxiety in my life.

As I get older, however, I notice that I become more and more like the second; I've even quit my anti-depressants, this time, I think, for good.