Sexuality and Autism Correlations

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Aromantic asexual...I've never wanted any of that stuff. Never tried to have relationships or had crushes or anything. I simply have no desire to, and frankly I find sex a rather grotesque, ugly act I would not like to take part in. That being said, I have no problem with others being into sex (some people do, I know - it's odd, some people are greatly upset just by the fact that ugly things exist, I am very glad I am not). It's just something I don't want for myself.

I am hetersexual, always have been. By looking at the poll results, it seems that hetersexual is most common at the moment.

Demisexual

I'm Bisexual. I'm too much for one sex to sexually contain so I need both.

Grey-asexual....that's so cool.....I didn't know it had a name!

Aromantic and asexual.

I can't abide human touch and people smell funny.

When I sit back and really think about it, my sexuality is very confusing. Mostly hetero, kinda bi, kinda part way demi. I just put hetero for simplicity sake.

But you had nothing in your poll about Mechanophillia?
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I never knew before this that there was such a thing as being demisexual. I came out as a lesbian at age 15 and have always considered myself to be gay. But I do find that it's at least difficult to feel attracted to someone based on looks alone. What's to be attracted to? So, even if I'm not completely demisexual, I may have some leanings, as I usually need to have at least some reason to like someone before I feel any physical attraction, even if it's someone I don't know personally. I don't normally get excited about body parts (although I do find faces appealing, so long as I don't feel somehow "confronted" by someone's attention). My girlfriend is the only person whose various body parts have appealed to me so much of their own accord, and I really think it's because of our relationship. (The appeal is real; I just wouldn't necessarily notice or care otherwise.) If I'm attracted to someone, it's usually after I've known them a while, by which point they may have decided that whatever initial attraction they have to me has worn off, because they went by looks and maybe shallow first impressions. If someone is famous, such as an actor or musician, I have to like a character they've played or music they've made and maybe also things they've said in interviews that sound insightful, intelligent, compassionate, honorable, etc.

Being attracted based on looks alone seems to me like being turned on by a Barbie doll (which is kind of what many of the people that are popular for their looks alone look like to me). Yes, I know there are some folks out there who may think that's hot. I'm just not one of them. A person is still a human being, but unless you know enough about them, you don't know who's in there, behind the face, inside the body. It just feels empty to me.

I don't have any interest in having sex with a girl who I don't actually love (in fact, the idea of casual sex is slightly repulsive to me), but I don't think that would make me demisexual, because I'm visually attracted to lots of girls who I don't know(and, to be honest, even some guys, but not recently).

Curiously, I never saw any appeal in sex at all when I was younger. I even had an aversion to the naked female body during the first few years of puberty, despite being very attracted to girls during that time. Now I find the idea of sex much more appealing, but outside of a loving relationship it still seems icky.

I definitely consider myself heterosexual, though, despite my quirks.

Grey-asexual is when you sometimes feel sexual attraction and demisexual means you can only experience sexual attraction towards someone who you've had an emotional or romantic connection with.

if romantic connection doesn't affect sexual attraction to someone I think you're a sociopath, not a non-demisexual. demisexual strikes me as feminist academic jargon for a decent person who doesn't base their sexuality on sexual objectification from advertisements. sex without any emotional or romantic or personal connection at all is just using another person as a masturbation toy. if there's mutual consent I'm not saying that that kind of sex is automatically wrong...but if that's the only way you get off then you are...damaged.

I'm same-gender-loving, but confused about what my gender is right now so sort of grey-asexual at the moment but homosexual in general? possibly hetero if I transition to the opposite of my gender assigned at birth? though the idea of being hetero kind of grosses me out. male/female power dynamics are immensely f****d up, and I prefer to relate to people as subjects and not objects, which isn't something straight men as a whole seem particularly fond of doing, given the rape epidemic in the US.

also people I've had romantic feelings for in the past define the body-types that I find attractive now. e.g. I have a crush on a professor with really big silly ears that stick out to the side more than normal. it would be consistent with past experience if in the future, even after I'm no longer fixated/crushing on this professor, for me to find people with big ears more attractive, all other things held constant, just because a person with an attractive personality had that physical trait in the past.

I think people tend to go for the most generically "attractive" person they can because they're so generic they're like a blank canvas onto which fantasies and ideals can be projected. for plain old no-strings-attached sex that's one thing, but allowing that to be your primary sexual drive for choosing a life partner just seems like a horrible idea to me.

My sexual and gender self-concepts have changed quite a bit over the years, so I've simply concluded I'm adaptable, lol. I've definitely been a tomboy my whole life, at one period even being downright butch. But I'm definitely more attracted to men and my significant other is a guy. So I'm a mix of traditional and nontraditional.

All I know is I don't want to be boxed in or defined, because life is perpetual change.

EDIT: Demi-sexual would probably be a good descriptor though, because while I can find various human forms quite pleasing, I don't have any desire to be intimate with somebody I haven't already formed a bond with.

I am a male but feel genderless. I go with 'male' because it's physiologically true and seems to be roughly enough accurate.

I don't really know for sure what I am. I have had sex with women, and it's quite fun, but honestly i've had more satisfaction from... self service. I do find women attractive. I am 27. and have never been romantically involved with someone to the point of having sex. I suspect that if i did, sex would be more fun than it has been.

I would like to have it with a man too. I already know i enjoy... er... simulating it =P I don't find men as romantically appealing as women or as sexually attractive, as a trend. However, really hot men turn me on possibly as much as really hot women do. I have developed crushes on more women than men in the past (a few women, exactly two men) and can imagine that sex with a man would be great fun.

I guess in theory i'm bisexual? With demisexual tendencies perhaps?

I've def noticed that non-heterosexual identities seem to be common in the AS world.

Possibly demisexual, I dunno.