do aspies prefer to live in non crowded places?

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the ubiquitous woodsmoke out here blocks a crystal-clear view of the milky way. country smog, i call it.

I have lived in both cities and small towns.

I prefer a big city. The bigger, the better. I like that if I go into a store they don't try to talk to me. I like that people don't notice me. I like that I can always get food that's fixed to my own uncommon tastes. And I like that I can have it delivered, rather than going out to get it. I like that I have a fast internet connection. I like being able to have a job based around my interest, a job which I couldn't have in a rural area. I like the possibility that I might eventually meet someone who thinks like me, rather than every person thinking I'm weird. In a big city, I'm not the weirdest one.

In small towns or even smaller cities, people try to force socialization. And even if you don't(or especially if you don't), they remember you and try to force it even more. In big cities, I can walk right past people and they don't pay attention to me. I love that.

You mentioned people in shops not talking to you - oddly enough I found this the most disturbing thing when I visited New York, the way people in shops just kept talking to me, it became really became very bothersome.

Not many people around here have wood burning fireplaces or stoves. For one thing, the wood generally has to be hauled too far. Few people have enough trees on their property to be able to cut them down for firewood. And that would just take care of one winter.

For another, most people have natural gas wells on the property and have free natural gas as a result. It's not exactly free because everyone has to forgo receiving royalties on the gas they use themselves. If you count the royalties that would have been paid if the natural gas was not used as the cost of the natural gas, then it's like heating a house for a small fraction of what people in town have to pay for their natural gas. Maybe a couple of bucks a month.

Around here, people who want to keep to themselves are pretty much left alone. People do generally say hello to you, but you aren't required to respond if you don't wish to do so.

Out of all of the places I have ever been, I love New York the most. I remember the first time I flew to New York. I decided to because of something said by someone here. I think it was sinsboldly. For the entire time, the only social interaction I had was when it was initiated by me. I was so close to so many other people, but they didn't even acknowledge that I was there. And no one stood in my way, and no one wanted to ask me questions. I could do whatever I wanted to do and investigate whatever I wanted to investigate without being bothered. I instantly wanted to relocate.

I am always wearing headphones and sunglasses, though, so I may not seem so willing to talk. I do always recommend that if you don't want people to talk to you. It's very nice that even if you do notice them talking to you you can act like you don't and just walk away.

My nightly walks, come rain or shine, are a blessing and a most cherished part of my routine each day.

I've lived in large cities and tiny villages and everything in between. I will always take rural living over living in cities or suburbs.

the only problem with rural living is that there are little or no cultural amenities or public services as are commonly available closer to civilization. for example- public transit? FUGGETABOUTIT. art museums or theatres or libraries or such? hardly. one has to drive an hour or more [IOW journey to the closest city] for any of that.

At the moment i live in a city and the good things about it is good public transport able to go to the shops with ease and able to walk to different places in no time overall city all the way.