Indecision

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I didn't realise I was indecisive until my friend asked me a question and I told her "give me a minute to think about it?"
It was a simple question that required an immediate, simple straight answer, and she got pissed off with me and said to her friend in front of me "see he never gives a straight answer!".

I could tell by her body-language, no eye-contact and her voice that I annoyed her, plus I was doing a physical task at the same time and don't multi-task very well. I was not aware of it until this situation happened last week. I think from now on if someone asks for an answer I will shoot one out straight away.
I havn't got many friends and don't want to lose the few I have by coming across wishy-washy, flaky and annoying, when really I'm a deep thinker and do tend to over think and over analyze.

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Love it!
That's me in the food court

It can take a long time for me to make a decision.

When it comes to fairly "mundane" things, I can be quite the aboulomaniac. I often spend days, months or even years trying to decide if I want to get a specific action figure, piece of furniture, book, article of clothing, etc. Often by time I make a decision, the item is no longer available or has become a rare collector's item. I guess that's good for the wallet, though.

If I have a goal or already know the most logical path to take in said situation. If I don't have a goal them it can be taxing. I try to analyse everything weigh the pros and cons. Even doing this post ie: should I give an example or not? well did I give to many? some things like that. Retyped this post several time already. Taking 20 min. or longer for something that only took 1 min or less to type. So To answer the first question sometimes yes.

Oh gosh that is awesome.

And yes I am incredibly indecisive , due to asd or ocd...who knows but I often sit on my bed wondering if I should go to the store or shower first...I sit for 30 minutes sometimes wondering which is less likely to kill me.

I am pretty indecisive too!

My problem is that I often think about things logically and objectively, so I don't get emotions involved. When I do that, I can often see equal pro's and con's for both things that I'm trying to decide between, so how do I choose?! Unless there are more pro's in favour of one answer, how can you decide between two options?

So am I!
I struggle with decisions, especially if I have to make a decision and can't think about the pro's and con's of my decisions because I don't have the time to.