What are you like with reading facial expressions/emotions?

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05 Jan 2013, 7:51 pm

"I am aware of how to recognize concerned (it's a bit like sad but with frowning), but I would really like to know how to even recognize flirting. I have honestly no idea"

Me either, the only difference between flirty and happy that I can tell is increased blinking, but looking at photos I just always see happy and I have no idea how anyone can recognize it correctly.

Thank you for the tip, i'll remember to pay more attention to the top half of a persons face, I have noticed that I rely far too much on what somebodies mouth is doing.



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05 Jan 2013, 9:21 pm

I should note that a concerened expression usually has a neutral mouth, whereas the ends of the sad mouth point downward. Sometimes it is combined with a tilted head and eyes staring into another direction as if the person is thinking, a sad person tends to look down though. Of course, this depends on the person and it's not always very clear, one can mistake concerened with doubtful as well (happenes to me sometimes) because both seems to contain frowning.

Thanks for the tip about the eye blinking, but I don't know whether it is of any use to me, I don't know how often a person blinks on an average nor do I see eyes very often because I avoid them. :lol:


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05 Jan 2013, 9:28 pm

I do it all naturally.



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05 Jan 2013, 11:55 pm

I'm fairly good at reading other's expressions today, but as a child I rarely looked at other's faces and to be honest, didn't care how other people felt. The one thing that unsettles me is the fact that someone may be feeling a certain way but not necessarily show it in their face and body language.


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06 Jan 2013, 1:18 am

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I'm good with reading facial expressions, body language, tone of voice and other non-verbal cues from instinct, which then makes me wonder why I was diagnosed with AS because it seems more common for those with ASDs to not understand non-verbal cues. I was even told that it is not possible for someone with ASDs to be able to read non-verbal cues by instinct.

That's baloney. There is a statistical correlation between autism and poor reading of body language, but there's also a big spread so obviously not everyone has the same degree of problems. There are a lot of people who somehow thing the ability to make eye contact, carry on a conversation, or read body language is immediate grounds for being un-diagnosed.

I'm also good at reading non-verbal cues and I don't ever recall not doing it by instinct as far back as I can remember. In the past I had more trouble with verbal information, like slang terms, figures of speech, idioms, and other "hidden" implied/contextual meanings that don't make a lot of logical sense but are none-the-less part of NT communication. Plain old emotions are easier to interpret because I just seem to "feel" them.



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06 Jan 2013, 2:56 am

I'm alright with it, but i do mistake certain expressions for anger a lot :o Which brings misunderstandings.



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06 Jan 2013, 3:20 am

I'm not very good, but I AM brutally honest. I freeze people in their tracks and squeeze the truth out. If I say something, and they make a weird expression or act a certain way that doesn't seem to fit, they're going to be explaining it to me step by step. The conversation becomes a brief battle of "When I said X, you felt what? And what did that face mean?" and so forth. It's really funny, but people act offended that I am confused. THAT gets me angry inside, but I know it's just a misunderstanding so I don't let it show. But, seriously, how is wanting to know what someone is really thinking so offensive? Do they think I'm pretending I don't know what they meant?



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06 Jan 2013, 8:43 am

I guess so, additionally they might think you are questioning them or make them look weird by making it sound as if they're bad at what they're doing (be social).


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06 Jan 2013, 8:53 am

Sylant wrote:
I've become a lot better at it, but it was quite difficult for a long time. I can pick up on happy, sad and angry easily, but I have to really pay attention to pick up on other expressions. I completely miss things like flirting or a concerned expression and generally perceive them as happy and sad respectively.
That's like me, too...


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07 Jan 2013, 6:03 am

I thought I could read well enough until my Dx. Now I'm learning there's a lot more than I see.



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08 Jan 2013, 11:26 am

I used to think i was good at reading people, however it is so obviously not the case. I'm not sure why i thought i was good at it.
I can read people to a degree (this is from doing a lot of watching various people through out my life) yet i can't read the ones that
don't show expressions or if it is a bad person who fakes being good real well, i got fooled by that once. I feel so naive about it and beat myself up over it since i should have known..

Last year my dog, Boo passed away from Cancer. She was the best dog i could ever ask for! She was my canine daughter and she could actually read vibes off people, she knew who was good and who wasn't and she would let them know if they were bad! She would "read" people for me and then growl at them. One of the 2 cable guys here (maybe both) well she sure didn't like one and i had to bring her outside as she wouldn't let up.
Later on we heard from a different Cable tech that those 2 were bad workers, did things they shouldn't on the job, etc.
I trusted Boo with my life. It was almost like we were telepathic at times. Others think me nuts for saying it, yet they didn't understand.

Another thing hard about reading faces is it seems NTs know how to disguise how they feel and they will do so a lot. So then if i saw their expression change its like hmm... I tend to avoid people. Unless they are people who have pure hearts for the most part and i know their intentions are good.



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08 Jan 2013, 11:28 am

knifegill wrote:
I'm not very good, but I AM brutally honest. I freeze people in their tracks and squeeze the truth out. If I say something, and they make a weird expression or act a certain way that doesn't seem to fit, they're going to be explaining it to me step by step. The conversation becomes a brief battle of "When I said X, you felt what? And what did that face mean?" and so forth. It's really funny, but people act offended that I am confused. THAT gets me angry inside, but I know it's just a misunderstanding so I don't let it show. But, seriously, how is wanting to know what someone is really thinking so offensive? Do they think I'm pretending I don't know what they meant?


I am the same way with the brutal honesty and i insist that my partner be the same with me. (She doesn't listen though agh). I got lied to most my childhood and i see no other way to go about life aside from honesty. Lifes even these white lies the NTS do can get ridiculous, confusing and messy.
When i was a child i got in trouble for my honesty when i was being literal they thought i was sarcastic...



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