Do you ever feel down cause you say stuff that's inappropria

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12 Jan 2013, 11:56 am

How's your menopause going? Is one of my examples lol

How come you two aren't married yet?

The other dress makes you look less fat.

Have you got over your divorce/depression or whatever? Etc.

There's lots more....

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12 Jan 2013, 12:12 pm

SandsOfTheSoul wrote:

I don't say things like that - that would make me cringe!

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12 Jan 2013, 12:34 pm

Those are more drunken me those types of questions hehe.

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12 Jan 2013, 12:37 pm

All the time... During the years I became quieter and quieter afraid to say something wrong...

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12 Jan 2013, 12:38 pm

SandsOfTheSoul wrote:

LOL!

I say things and then with my feedback loop I analyze what I said and think "What on earth?" and always realize it came off as peculiar sounding.

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12 Jan 2013, 12:42 pm

hey_there wrote:

Do you ever feel bad/depressed after you unknowingly say something inappropriate knowing you can't help it? :oops:

My new shrink was like this on the beginning, repeating all the strange sentences I'm saying and I was also nervous, so I was more strange than usuall and I was like: "How much s**t am I talking?"

And was a bit embaraced. :oops:

So, sometimes.

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12 Jan 2013, 12:44 pm

SandsOfTheSoul wrote:

I feel down sometimes as when I do say things others deem as inappropriate its still the damn truth! It's only inappropriate to others as they are trying to protect their B.S. social illusions and rituals. They are also protecting their emotional states. Picasso said that if you can imagine something, it's real. That's b.s. in my opinion. There is a reality independent of you, not just inside you. We as aspies show people the reality outside of people. If people don't want to see or hear that, that's their ignorance, but that ignorance of reality shouldn't be also transferred onto us aspies as people as well.

This....this is good.

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12 Jan 2013, 1:57 pm

I always analyze things that I have said to people during the day in fear that I’ve said the wrong thing again. I can’t help it, although sometimes it gets people laughing.

Asking a fat woman how long she had being pregnant was the worst thing just lately. She had a small head and a big tummy, I got it wrong, she gave me a look and waddled away un-amused.

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12 Jan 2013, 2:56 pm

Rudywalsh wrote:

I debrief myself too. LOL. When I'm actually in the social situation I'm sort of holding on for dear life like someone in a tiny raft on white water. It's only later, when I'm able to consider things in peace, that I realize I may have committed a gaffe. By then it's too late to apologize or explain. I just tell myself "Oh s**t" and hope to learn something from it.

It is depressing when this happens. I hope that for the most part I come across as being endearingly quirky and not mean or annoying.

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12 Jan 2013, 11:06 pm

I often say things without realizing that they are inappropriate and am informed of my rude behavior later. Whether or not I feel bad afterward is typically a matter of who I offended. I can be incredibly loyal to some people (my mother), yet a ruthless b**ch to others (people I don't trust or have a negative impression of). If it was someone I care about I often feel frustrated with myself and confused as to why I do not think things through prior to saying them. If it was an individual I dislike, I often proudly admit to having meant the statement and stand by what I said. And if they insist that it was rude and I should apologize I simply inform them that I was raised to believe that honesty is the best policy

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