Touch

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touch, for me, has quite some factors about it: who touches me, where am i touched, when, how strongly, in what situation, how tired i am, wether the touch is intentional or not...
most touch will make me at least flinch, but some ones are neutral or even enjoyable. hugging a good friend is enjoyable for me, i just dont hug my male friends that often since it's not that socially accepted.

so, touching my girlfriend (or a crush, for that matter) is not just something that wont bother me, it is something i actually want to do.

I don't have a problem whatsoever touching other people, but when people touch me unexpectedly it does make me feel uncomfortable.

For me, it really depends on the situation.

I don't like touching strangers on the street, brushing past people, shaking hands, or if someone gets close to me. I generally already feel uncomfortable if I have to sit close to people for group work in my university classes, etc.

But I really like touch if it concerns people I like. Positively correlated with how much I like them.
Hugs from people I like range from okay to comfortable, as well.

I actually love touching the skin of my boyfriend with my fingertips because of the haptic sensation of (his) smooth skin. And I also like being touched but I have difficulties with other sensory input at that time. Processing visual, auditory and haptic input is too much for me so I usually have to close my eyes to not get confused and irritated. For long hugs or the sensation of being held to be comfortable I really have to like and trust that person.

And I like touching objects just for the sensations of different surface structures; I suppose, skin is, in that sense, just like other surfaces that are very intriguing for me. Leather, fur, silk, microfibre, stones, wood, etc.

The thought of physical contact would, and has, caused anxiety for me, yes. There is more anxiety if I am being touched than there would be if I was initiating the contact, but there is always some either way, no matter the person or scenario. I do not date or pursue intimate relationships, in part, because of this.

I enjoy handshakes and hugs and other forms of appropriate touching.

This is how i get after mating with my gf! I completely understand the hypersensitivity! Is this normal, or is it a spectrum thing? My gf has this happen sometimes to her as well and she is NT.



I can also really identify with this, i don't like it when random strangers stand near me, or people who know me (neighbors) think they can hug me or touch my shoulder or other crap. I hate people standing close to me, especially those types that are strangers in line for the cash register and they are way too close that gets my blood boiling.

If a friend or my mom wants to hug me that is fine. However this doesn't happen often. As for strangers i usually have very angrily, bluntly, either told them whats up or stepped away and left. Some people are disgusting and just want to hit on others and get way too close, they have no boundaries. People who i know and i know their background enough that they have good hearts and intentions then can have a hug if they want one.