I am the only person I know like this in real life

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Hey OP,

Out of all the people I know, the one who has the most success with women--actually, the most success with people--is definitely one of my best friends. Years ago, I asked him how he got good with women, and he said he found a bunch of guys who were good with women, and studies what they did, and studied what women did, studied body language and facial expressions, and practiced.

I thought he was kidding until we both took the AQ test, and he scored a 37.

Yes, it's possible. My trouble isn't that I could not learn how to navigate those waters, it's that I do not care to. I find the stuff NT people like to be quite shallow and boring. If you can teach me how to get girls easily, but they only want to have sex, dance, watch sports or TV, and go to bars/clubs but never want to have a really deep conversation about anything, then I will not feel like the sex is meaningful, I will not feel like I'm connecting, and I will not have learned anything of value from you.

My friend, however, is very happy with his skills and has had many girlfriends, usually sticking with one for a few years at a time. If this is what you want, he did it, I'm glad you can do it, and thanks for sharing.

Attracting women is not a social skill. I'm the least social person I've ever heard of and had about 60 female sex partners so far. Being sexually attractive is not even remotely the same as being social.

I have a friend who has been dx Aspergers. Now he can have no boundaries and stand too close or may touch someone and poke at somebody (similar to what OP said) now it seems the lack of boundaries in some Aspies can vary. He doesn't read others well at all.

Another confusing thing is that my Asperger friend had cognitive and learning delays all through school until high school. To my knowledge he does fit the Aspie diagnosis to a T, it's just that doesn't fit the criteria of diagnosis and i've never ever seen him stim.

Yet he got diagnosed Aspergers by someone. At one point, the military doctor had him diagnosed as Schitzoaffective as well.

Now he really fits the diagnosis aside from the fact that he actually did have cognitive learning delays in school.
He will talk to people who aren't interested and keep on talking.

Its hard i guess with multiple diagnosis'. I thought it was set in stone for Aspergers no cognitive delays were present early on. Yet in my friends case he had the delays and is still diagnosed Aspie.

It’s no different for anyone, aspergers or not, being attractive to the opposite sex is individual, confidence plays a big role.

Charisma can’t be picked up like somebody’s walk you take a shine to, true charisma depends on how you project yourself, how you are perceived by others.

A person who talks softly and inspires you to listen to what they have to say shows charisma.

Somebody with a loose tongue and an eagerness to exploit their antics lacks charisma.

No, I can't say I'm like you at all, OP -- and I can't say I want to be, either. I don't do those things because they don't bring me any sense of fulfillment, or even any stimulation of the base desires.

You seem to treat women as trophies rather than love interests or even people. You only describe them in terms of how "hot" they are, or how quickly you can bed them, but never mention how they made you feel or what attracted you to them other than looks.

You measure your social success as how hard you can make people laugh, and your "social group" consists of other predatory and shallow men.

And you say all of this with a naive sense of confidence and pride, as if you are setting some great example for those around you. I honestly feel more pity and disgust than envy or admiration. I'll grant that it's "interesting" what you've managed to accomplish, but I really think you should see a professional if you aren't already. This all sounds very unhealthy and destructive.