It's no wonder we get inhibited...

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I have the opposite problem. I usually interrupt others, because I don't like listening to them talk on and on and on about boring topics. When I get the meaning, I tend to cut them off, because I don't want to hear all the waste words. I have auditory and speech processing problems, so that is probably why I like people to speak meaning in fewer words. I also like it when people speak in small words. When people speak in big words, I usually drill them to get them to the level of small words and clear idears, but I find that many people can't go there, because they don't ackshuly understand what they are talking about, but the big words make them sound smart.

I have noticed that nts are not so good at handling details. So they would interrupt you, because too many details, and I would interrupt you, because too much talking.

its not humour
think about it
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What would help is voice training. Namely, knowing how to project your voice, namely, to make it boom and carry. Think about how drill sergeants, stand-up comedians, or opera singers talk. They don't yell; yelling is for anger. But when they give commands, a speech, or a performance, they talk in a voice that can be heard from across the room. Without a microphone.

We aspies, due to shyness that comes from being mistreated since becoming self-aware and/or lack of social intuition, tend to talk in a dull, quiet voice. It doesn't boom. It doesn't carry. So when we talk, it's easy for people to bush it off as background noise and ignore it. Yelling doesn't help, because it's still the same dull, quiet voice, only in a higher volume. NTs will still ignore you, even if they turn around to see who yelled. For an animal equivalent, consider the difference between a yap of a dachshund and a woof of German shepherd. They're both dog barks, right? Same volume at times, even. But what a difference!

It's not much different for people, sadly. I'm not sure what's exactly required for projecting your voice. I vaguely know it's something about using your diaphragm and not just your vocal chords. It's easy to understand the concept, but hard to master the act. There are plenty of books and videos out there, but I think a class with a professional instructor would be your best bet.

If people try to interrupt me, they can't, because I go on talking, no matter what. Most of the times it's me interrupting others.