Different types of eye contact

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Has anyone ever tried wearing sun glasses to cope with their eye-contact issues? I find that wearing sun glasses helps me a lot with any face to face social situations I find my self in. Plus, they also help with sensory overload because they reduce the amount of light getting to your eyes.

One of the things I find with eye contact is when I make it with some one. I feel like I am getting a torrent of information from the other person. This info just seem like noise to me but it feels like it coming in high volume. I can't make any sense out of it but it defiantly causes me to go into sensory overload.

I always wondered if eye contact is some type of telepathic link between two people.

Eye contact is tiring. There is substitute of eye contact, such as hand movement, whether the peoples body lean forward and the voice. That's easier to judge it correctly. The con is, I could react slowly, giving a "dumb" feeling to others. But close friends know I am not dumb.

I have always considered looking at any location on a person's face to be eye contact, since you can also see a person's eyes if you are looking at their mouth, but eye contact is ackshuly eye to eye gaze with the focus of your eyes on someone else's eyes, ooops.

I look right at the corners of their eyes,but I have a bad memory for their eye color unless it really pops.
I hate it when they get within inches of my face,I have a hard time pulling it off then.

It Really depends with strangers it makes me uncomfortable and if someone is staring at me intensely and barely looks away i feel that also and i hate making eye contact in groups because i don't know where to look i find it hard because, if you only look at the one person you're leaving other people out of the conversation i feel that its too much for me to handle.

I naturally gravitate my eyes towards people's mouths because a) It helps me understand what they are saying and b) It's simply more interesting to look at. If I dislike a person, I'll look away because looking at them overstimulate me in terms of emotions. I don't want to understand them.

I have a huge problem making eye contact altogether, I had one experience in college where the teacher was shouting in my face and she kept on shouting: "LOOK INTO MY EYES" over and over again.

I can't look into anyones eyes at all unless I have known the person for years and even then I find it difficult...

This experience was particularly hard because the whole class was watching and the teaching assistant was also watching and everyone else even said it was wrong to do that even to a person without aspergers.

I made the college aware that I had aspergers... The teachers should have been better informed right?

Anyway to answer your question, I can not handle eye contact in any situation be it social or any other form of connection.

As a fellow teacher, I must heartily agree with you. I have no problem making eye contact with my students and my principal. I do, however, seem to have trouble with eye contact when it comes to other teachers, strangers, anyone who is trying to connect with me when I don't want to do so, and even, occasionally, my husband. I suspect it has something to do with status, familiarity, and the extent to which a person tries to connect.

I can look my students in the eye because I am a performer, as any teacher is. This may or may not be the real me; only I will really know. In addition, those students (whether consciously or not) already view me based on their previous life experiences. If I am lucky enough to have deep-thinking students, they may actually view me as a worthy person.

I can look my superiors in the eye because they have already judged me. They have deemed me worthy to have been offered this job. I already know that they respect my talents, my abilities, and my personality (even if they find it awkward). Other teachers, however, may be judging me as we speak. I am socially obligated to interact with them, and am equally obligated to compare myself to them (implicitly, of course)

Strangers want either to feel better about themselves for connecting (which means my individual personhood is irrelevant), or truly to connect with others to enrich their lives (which means that I am only a means to an end).

My husband. My husband knows me more intimately than any other person on the planet. And yet he often looks at me as an alien. I shrink from this unintentional judgement, though I know he does love me. Those we are closest to know...too...much. My eyes will bare my soul to anyone who can see that dimension. And when they do, I can't abide it.