Which eye do you look at when talking in conversation?

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If I have problems to understand what a person says, I normally look at the mouth. If I try to fake eye contact to comfort the person that is talking to me, I focus on the spot where indian people normally have their religious spot.

I feel like eye contact should be natural as you tend to think from what you see mostly and so during a conversation, your attention goes to whomever you're talking to while looking in their eye sight. Problem is, the thought/idea of wondering which eye to look at is the curse because it takes away from your attention to concentrate on which eye to look at rather than focusing on the conversation with the person.

I have the same problem as the original poster. Just started the same way too... I could have written that original post actually. I guess the answer was Left eye, definitely distracting not knowing because I feel like I'm searching back and forth now which I'm not sure if that's normal.

I learned in my late teens that it is important to look at someones eyes when you talk to them because this is how they feel they can trust you. It took many many years to get confident in it, then when I started questioning which eye, I regressed quite a bit.

Like many Aspies, I mainly look at mouths and teeth. I conditioned myself to make eye contact for brief periods, but I never took into consideration whether I favored one eye over another.

I typically look just about anywhere but directly at the other person's eyes...elsewhere at that person's face/body, the floor, elsewhere in the room, you name it. I'll sometimes catch myself studying a pattern on a wall or on the floor while listening to the other person.

Until I came to wrongplanet I didn't realize that I didn't look at people at all when talking to them. Usually I'm either walking somewhere (and thus looking where I'm walking), or I'm in a group discussion and looking at [a. the floor, b. my computer, c. my ipod, d. not the person].

So I really don't know which eye I look at. It's like there's a same-charge magnet keeping my eyes away. Anything but the other person's eyes.

I have always struggled with this.

I didn't notice it until 8th grade, when the dean had a glass eye. I was trying not to look a it, but as I don't do eye contact in the usual way, that made it even harder. I ended up hardly looking at him at all, which probably only fueled his suspicion that I was lying about the issue in question.

Thankfully, summer is upon us in my hemisphere, and people are wearing sunglasses more and more. How much easier it makes things!

I usually don't look at eyes at all. If I have to give the impression of being attentive to a particular person I tend to look at their mouth or some point behind their head close enough to give them the required illusion. I think most people are unable to tell that I am faking it (I was diagnosed as an adult and I only really noticed that people look each other in the eye around age 16 so I've had 14 years to practice now ). I intensely dislike looking people in the eye unless it's someone with whom I have a close relationship.

I believe I have always had trouble with eye contact because I remember hearing a lot as a kid to "look at me in the eyes."

I see two separate psychologists and I cannot look either of them in the eye ever. I can usually force myself to look most people in the eyes if I feel the need to, but not the psychologists for some reason? It is strange.