How do you feel about having a kid.

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I'm past the age of child-bearing now (plus I had a hysterectomy this past November), but I knew from the age of about 14 that I didn't want kids. I never saw them as particularly cute or cuddly (well, not a lot), they seemed like a lot of noise and trouble, and the crying was enough to send me screaming into the streets myself. Oddly enough though, I always figured I'd eventually have them -- when I was ready. The thing is....I never got ready. I never felt grown-up enough or stable enough or responsible enough to raise a child. Looking back now, I know that AS was my problem.

No kiddies or marriage over here, ever. Never thought either of those would be for me either from the earliest times it was brought up.

My sister took up the slack [by too much].

I'd rather live the life of a man than start a family with a man.

I hope to have kids in the future, haven't thought much about the possibility of them having disabilities but I think it will be fine even if they do. A more immediate concern is getting a partner and settling down in the first place, hopefully the time will come for that.

I'm terrified of having children because I have a higher chance of having a child on the spectrum. More than half the parents on WP seem to have kids on the spectrum. Well, both my parents were NTs and they had me, f**k knows where that faulty gene came from because ALL the people on my dad's side are NTs and ALL the people on my mum's side are NTs, without even a single AS trait among them. And I don't want to bring a child into this cruel world who is suffering with a nasty cruel thing like AS.

I dont want kids and I dont think I can sacrifice my life to them but then if someone wants kids I dont think the fear that they might get a condition should stop them. I've seen videos about Jani and read stuff and the case is very interesting and also rare. Interestingly enough, there other kid Bohdi has autism of course they dont really focus on that. I'm sure the parents have quite a handful and its interesting that they decided to go so public about it.

I would really like to have a child...this is going to sound really weird, but I've wanted a child of my own ever since I was at least 10 years old. I enjoyed playing with my younger half-sisters who were both babies at the time, and I guess I had it in my head that a baby could serve as a kind of "playmate"....the kind of playmate I could actually manage; one who didn't talk back or try to boss me around and make me their butt monkey (which invariably happened to me whenever I tried to make friends or join a game with my same-age peers).

These days I'm mature enough to realize that a baby's primary function is not that of a "friend" or "playmate" (although they can be quite enjoyable to interact with all the same-they smile, they giggle, they like it when you play little games with them, etc) and that they are completely dependent at birth and require more love and care than they are capable of returning at first.....These days I just want something that I can nurture and hold and lavish love on. I've babysat for my parents' friends before and have really enjoyed it - the kids seem to like me too.

...I just don't think my actually having kids of my own would work out bcuz I don't know how I'd manage being married to somebody or having to be a single parent. I don't think getting married is really in the cards for me....I mean, my dad's been divorced/remarried twice, I have an aunt who's been divorced/remarried more times than I can count....what assurance do I have that I wouldn't end up the same way?

Eww double post

I don't want to have a kid of my own, but I want to spend the rest of my life helping the progeny of other families. I think the world would be better off without an extra child.

It would be irresponsible of me to conceive a child. I would not be a capable parent. That is not a statement born of low self esteem, more just a statement of fact. I would struggle to adequately take care of a cat, let alone a human child.

Also, I would be very concerned about the possibility of passing on mental illness to the child.

I don't want to have children anyway, but my own wants about that run secondary to aforestated reasons.

Not interested whatsoever. I'm not even interested in adopting. Why? Let's just say while I'm able to tolerate and put up with kids, I'm not a very big fan of the little buggers.

I love my 2 boys so much and while I find it awkward at times, I can't imagine life without them. Yes, it is very stressful being a stay at home mom having very few breaks and being a parent is definitely not for everyone.
I grew up knowing I was going to have kids. I never questioned it, it was my sole goal in life to become a housewife and raise children. However, it is SO FAR from what I imagined! lol. It's also not what my husband expected either...
AS far as the acronyms go, both our families are riddled with them. I knew that my kids would have them, though which ones we have yet to discover. The chance of them having something like schizophrenia (something an aunt has) was slim, but still a possibility. We'll find out. The amount of people in my family with either aspergers or just traits are so many that it's the norm for me.

I'm an antinatalist, so I don't worry about these things as I'm never going to have children.

To be blunt; HELL NO. I have never had the urge to be a father, and for so many reasons I can't list them.

Charles