Scared to use public bathrooms?

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I don't like public toilets, either. I guess nobody does.

When you stand at the trouph for urinating, you are actually standing on other men's urine because the floor there is always wet from splash. That idea really disgusts me. In Australia (where I live now), public toilets often stink and are pretty dirty and the hook inside the door of a cubicle to hang your bags etc are broken most of the time. You often have to put your things on the floor. Unbelievable.

In my country (where I was born), public toilets are far better, particularly recently. Most modern places have shiny, non-stinking, well-maintained toilets. The toilets in those places are very advanced and user-friendly. In some places you don't even have to turn the tap handle to wash your hands because the sensor will detect your hands and water and soap will be dispensed automatically. But I guess these can't really be implemented in Australia because people will soil/vandalize them.

However, even in those clean toilets, if I'm doing number 2, I have to use some toilet paper to fully cover the seat so that my skin will not directly touch the seat though some toilets are equipped with disinfectant for you to use.

I'm not scared. I just hate them because most of the times they aren't clean and they stink.

Since I am working on construction sites, "normal" public toilettes seem to me like heaven. If there are some drops or hairs you can use some wetted towel paper to clean it, and if its worse I simply do it skistyle wihtout touching the toilette seat or crouch on the toilette, so only my shoes have contact with it. (The last thing is, if its really, really, really dirty, so the shoes dont matter any more, because there would be noone sitting there anywhere.)

No it's not ''an aspie thing'' just a trait that some people can have OK.

I'm afraid of doing poop in public toilets. Although doing poop is natural, and the toilet is the right place, evidently people still get all grossed out if they prove that you have just done a poop and they judge it against you. Also I worry about the lock on the door being weak and swinging open while I'm sitting on the toilet, so I always test the lock first.
I don't mind using public toilets otherwise.

I can't do it under stress. I would rather have privacy and if I am stressed out, there is no way I'll be ably to do it in public. The worst case of this was when I was on a cross-country road trip with my father and there is no routine schedule at all to a road trip and the only bathrooms are public ones. I held it in for nine hours at one point during that trip.

I don't know if anyone hates them for this reason, but the ones around me have automatic flush and it is LOUD. It sounds like a jet taking off.

If I don't already have earplugs in, I put them in before I enter the public bathroom.

The loudness of an auto-flusher traumatized my son when he was 3. Now he is afraid of strange bathrooms even in other people's homes. At his grandmother's house he had to go outside behind a bush even though her potty is quieter than ours.

I'm very secretive about doing my business. I'd even had sex with my husband several months before I felt comfortable enough to poop at his apartment.

It's not an "Aspie thing," IMO. I am NT, married to sackcoat, but have always had issues using public restrooms. I use the "hover" method while using it, and I never directly sit on the toilet. I also have a tendency to hold it until I am either at home or our hotel, or my parent's house, or whatever, just so I don't have to actually use public restrooms. When opening the door, I ALWAYS use my sleeve or a paper towel. I also hardly ever wash my hands in public restrooms, unless the restroom seems relatively clean. I prefer to use hand sanitizer because the sinks are so dirty, it seems it would be counterproductive for me.

I should also mention that I have been the same way at my places of employment. I can probably count on one hand how many times I used the restroom at my job, even while I was pregnant. I guess you could say I have a big issue with public restrooms.

I always use stalls, no matter what. I am incredibly toilet shy, and the thought of anyone hearing me do my business terrifies me. I am also very OCD and public restrooms are so filthy, I feel like I will get some disease in there. It's so severe, that I will hold it in, even at work. If I absolutely MUST go, I won't touch the toilet seat and I just want to get out of there ASAP.

I've even put my fingers on my ears so I don't hear myself going. It's a stupid psychological trick, but it works.

I don't use my own restroom when people come over b/c I don't want them to hear any noise. If I have to, I turn on the faucet.

Needless to say, this is a huge issue for me and has caused a lot of misery.

I always thought it was an Asian thing, but after reading this thread, I don't think it is.

Edit: In response to an above poster: I am gay.

I've no problem using a urinal if I'm the only person there, but if someone comes and uses the one next to me, I just can't 'go' no matter how much I need to.

I don't have a problem with bathroom at work (thankfully), at least until they cut back on cleaning. The cleaning company was shortly thereafter shown the door and the new company did it right.

Public bathrooms....yuck. There are some places which are okay....there are some that better than others...and there are places I blotted out of my memory.

I hate bathrooms, especially public bathrooms or if anyone is nearby. I've gotten better over the years, but it took me going to China for that. The bathrooms over there are so horrible! Bombsite toilets (holes in the ground), communal troffs, no privacy. I learned to hold everything for up to 12 hours and to avoid food and drink while there. I lost a ton of weight. When I got back to the states, I had a bit of an easier time using the public restrooms, although they're still horrible. If I can avoid it I will. Especially if there are other people. (though if it's really loud and noisy, I find that better. I'm less likely to be noticed and/or bothered)

As a child I was terrified of public toilets. At school we had filthy toilets that flushed automatically and I was sure that I would be soaked in foul waste when they flushed. They were disgusting and there were no washing facilities. This was in the 1950s. This fear transferred to public toilets and the noise of the flush even at home scared me until I was much older. When I learned how toilets worked I was much happier as I understood I would not fall down them or get wet from the flush. I am fine now but hate to be heard using a toilet. New work situations are always a challenge because of privacy issues. I love public toilets that play music!