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http://www.courant.com/news/connecticut ... full.storyIt seems that Nancy Lanza constantly was shuffling Adam in and out of programs and schools, which is about the worst thing you can do to an aspie. He'd get settled, then she'd decide he was doing poorly, and off he'd go somewhere else. It's no wonder he eventually grew to hate her. In addition, she would fly off to various tourist destinations and leave him all alone in the house with TV dinners to eat; she said she wanted to make him independent, but he likely perceived it as being abandoned. She pulled him out of HS and away from his support system. He was too young and immature for college. When she decided that she was gonna move to some strange city with him, it likely set him off.
It seems that every indignation you can inflict on an aspie, she did it. She wasn't mentally ill unlike some of our parents, but she did everything wrong. An American supermarket tabloid claimed that Adam had started worshipping the devil, burning himself with a lighter, and believing that he himself was the personification of evil. I have to admit that similar thoughts about being the personification of evil crossed my mind more than once, and my upbringing was far more stable. The obsession with the Norwegian gunman would fit. I'm sorry, but Nancy largely dug her own grave here, her son was unstable to begin with and she did all this to him, constantly changing everything, and we hate change.
Who is to say his mother wasn't mentally ill/unstable? Not having been assessed for mental illness isn't the same as saying none exists. There seem to be a lot of assumptions made here. Her behaviour certainly sounds narcissistic. At the very least, it could be said that she was not helped to understand his condition by professionals, which is an important part of helping the person with AS. Is it truly her fault if she was ignorant? Maybe she was a simple person who thought she was doing the best for him, without realising that it was actually the opposite. Someone who behaves in that way towards their child surely has some issues somewhere. Perhaps she was also an Aspie and was severely lacking in empathy for him, why would she make such ridiculous decisions if she didn't have some mental issues herself? Perhaps she was even misled or misinformed by someone as to what was best for him. She sounds a confused person, and perhaps she was under immense stress or depressed, to consider leaving him alone while she went on holiday (presumably he was not a young child when she did this?)