POLL: Hardest Part of Having Aspergers?

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For me, social issues are the biggest problem. Although my confidence has improved a lot over the past few months, I'm still not at all confident, and I prefer not to get close to people emotionally.

However, there are other aspects of Autism I wouldn't give up for anything, such as my special interests, intense focus on detail, and sense of logic.

i don't know if this is to do with having autism or not but the hardest part for me is the speech delays. many say autistic people have higher iqs but i have iqs thats lower than average and im not particularly clever at anything in particular nor do i have any special interests. but when i talk to people some say 'you talk funny' and some say 'do you have a lisp' or 'do you have a accent' and i have to say 'no i have speech difficultys' but i struggle to say some words properly like 'difficultys'. i dont talk with a lisp i just talk noticebly slow and some words i cant always say right. but its no good getting upset or ashamed about it, if people dont like it then they dont have to, as long as they leave me alone if they don't like it and not tease me for it.

i think they are executive function and social issues

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So it's totally sweet?

Hardest Part of Having Aspergers? So many responses ... so little time ...

Other #1: People who have no idea what AS really is, and who assume that all Aspies are ret*d, schizophrenic, psychotic, psychics, or walking computers.

Other #2: People who try to pitch Aspies as the next step in evolution, Indigo People, extraterrestrial descendents, or some other kind of super-beings.

Other #3: People who believe that Aspies need to be protected from anyone who would teach them to stand up for themselves, lead independent lives, or learn to overcome their disabilities.

Other #4: People who believe that Aspies need to be "cured" (not the same as #3).

What about those that want to be cured?

Sensory issues, hands down. What I wouldn't give to get rid of my sensory issues, specifically my tactile issues...

All of those things are difficult. To pick out one as worst, i voted social issues. Specifically the lack of innate instinctual understanding of the thought process of others. I don't know how people will react to a given situation, ever. When I guess, I am usually wrong. I cannot anticipate other's actions or emotions. The things that motivate most NT's do not motivate me. Society has always felt... alien, i guess, to me. A neurotypical person who possesses these social instincts has a marked advantage over my in all aspects of life that involve even minimal interaction with others. Renting an apartment is more difficult, as is finding and keeping a job. Buying groceries and clothing more difficult. Driving more difficult. Talking on the phone. Basic verbal communication sometimes problematic.

Second would be mental processing speed. It takes me much longer to execute certain mental functions than is considered mean population average.

(I should have italicized the word "need".)

Sure, if an Aspie wants to be cured, then a means to be cured should be available.

But not all of us need or want to be cured.

It's the people who believe that all Aspies need to be cured - whether or not they actually need a cure or even want a cure - that are especially annoying.

^ Agreed.

On second thought, maybe social issues aren't the worst... if I didn't get overstimulated so easily, maybe I'd have an easier time of it at school. I:>

"Hell is other people" -- Jean-Paul Sartre

(Actually, "L'enfer, c'est les autres,")

I went with "sensory issues".......came to mind because I remember my siblings would sometimes purposely do/say things which they knew bothered me, and if it triggered a meltdown of sorts, they would laugh at me for reacting that way.

I voted social issues. That's where I feel the sting the most. I see how well "normal" people just connect so effortlessly with each other, and I think I've missed out so much for the lack of it. There has always been that disconnect in translating my internal world to be understood, and in receiving the attempts to connect from others. I felt it most keenly in adolescence, but it still lingers.

I voted sensory issues, as they are the most apparent and distressing to me, but this may be due to my own limited perspective on what my difficulties are.

I don't think much about social issues because I am mostly oblivious. The times I am made aware of them are fairly stressful. I also do not have many meltdowns. Verbal comprehension can be a problem but I tend to lump that into sensory issues.

A combination of all four.

Sensory issues, mine are fairly severe and I dont like getting headaches a couple times a week.