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Yes, again. A lot of us have trouble with eye contact...it is uncomfortable and makes it harder for us to process what the other person is saying. Tapping would probably be considered a stim. Since most of the terms we use for various symptoms are probably very obscure for non-native English speakers (and probably non-existent in Polish), here are a few to get you started: stimming, meltdowns, shut downs, sensory overload, and executive function. Searching those terms (even just on this site) would be a good start toward finding answers for how to cope with them. Sorry if you already know these...I'm not trying to talk down to you, but I know if I had to try to find this stuff in my second language (French) with all the specialized vocabulary we use, I would't get very far. There are probably loads of others that I'm not thinking of...maybe some other posters can help us out with that?

Thanks. I don't know about this terms. In Polish it is hard to find similar terms, most of them is only translations of english. Stimming can be habits that annoys other people? I have usually something like meltdowns, after parties when I dont want to go. I'm screaming on the street becoming agressive. Several times I hurt my fist by hitting walls as long as it starts bleeding.
One,time in huge crowd I felt paralyzed for long time, noise and it was terrible.
I have problem with executive functioning, I dont understand this term. Sorry.
Problems like this can be genetically related? My father has few problems with other people. But not only he had. He's grandma was in mental hospital (I dont know why) and my granfather from mom side... He was very intelligent but he easy get into alcoholism and suicided.
I'm sorry if I'm irritating.

Stimming is just something physical and repetitive that calms you down, like rocking back and forth or tapping things, fiddling with your hands or rubbing your face...things like that. Stimming is a good thing. Most experts encourage us to do it in private however we want (as long as it's not destructive, like pulling your hair out) because of its calming effects, but to find things that aren't so obvious to do in public. The ones that I use in public when I'm stressed are rubbing the back of my neck like I've got a muscle ache or pushing my eyes like I've got a migraine. Executive function is your ability to do basic things in an organized fashion, like getting to places on time, bathing without being reminded, cleaning house, keeping your papers organized and bills paid, doing the shopping and cooking. A lot of us have a hard time with that. There are numerous tips and resources on line to help with that (Google how to improve executive function), as well as with sensory integration (google sensory diet or sensory integration to find them). There is a fairly strong genetic component to AS. My son has it, too, and it is suspected in several cousins and my dad.

You are not irritating...I understand that you have limited information and places you can turn to for help where you are, and applaud you taking the initiative to find out how to help yourself. There are loads of people on this site who have been in your shoes wondering what is wrong with them, including me. I know it seems hopeless sometimes, but just figuring out how your brain works the best can really help. I'm one of those people who doesn't think there is anything fundamentally wrong with AS people, were just different and have different needs. Socially, knowing about AS and being able to tell others what my quirks are has really helped, as others don't take as much offense when I don't react in a typical way. Reading others' posts on here has helped me with this a lot, as well as posting replies. It forces me to think about what works for me and what doesn't as well as to know that there are others just like me.