I dont classify as an "aspie" anymore

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05 Mar 2013, 1:22 am

To each their own to find their own happiness, I guess. I'm not one to go with the flow, and I have no desire to "pass" for ordinary. What's the point of blending in with the flock...to mindlessly follow the herd? Striving for normality seems like a very low bar to set sights on. What conformity I'm forced to follow in my day to day chafes me enough.

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05 Mar 2013, 1:39 am

Just remember everyone that we have hyper plasticity of the brain meaning that if we focus on anything like a special interest we can learn really fast. This includes being like an NT. Downside however you have to keep up the practice cause as soon as you have another special interest the gains you made may disappear very quickly.

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05 Mar 2013, 1:45 am

MjrMajorMajor wrote:

I hear ya on that for sure, but I also realize that the better I can do in various social situations & such in life and work, the better I'll be able to earn more money & live a better balanced life for it - quirks and all. I have no desire to replace AS with NT, but I certainly appreciate functioning at an ever higher level in order to be financially self sufficient and achieve greater successes in the things I set out to do.

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05 Mar 2013, 1:52 am

some people can successfully squeeze out of autistic behaviour, congradulations

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05 Mar 2013, 3:02 am

Jessicella wrote:

I have taken some tests recently and my score has improved. I have worked on my social skills quite a bit. And I no longer classify as someone with asperger's. Has anybody else have this happen? So, I guess that means I'm "normal"? I don't know. I don't care for labels but I was surprised when I learned that I don't classify as one anymore.

ahhhh the dream....

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05 Mar 2013, 6:53 am

I've done this. It's just online tests that I don't pass anymore though, I haven't taken any official ones.

It doesn't mean that you are 'normal', you just come across as more 'normal' than you did before.
But I guess your official legal label is 'not a person with Aspergers' if you no longer meet the diagnostic criteria :/.

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05 Mar 2013, 7:32 am

thanks everyone. And way to go Goldfish! It's not that I'm striving for normalcy as one person stated, it's just that I want to be able to function better in this world. Job wise, I am doing pretty good and am happy about it. I don't think one should label me as "normal" or even "aspergers" maybe I'm just...me?

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05 Mar 2013, 10:29 am

I've always thought AS doesn't just 'go away' as your mind will always be wired in a certain way, but the symptoms can become less visible (or more visible) over time. I had several years of my life when I thought my AS had 'gone away', now I see the symptoms a bit more and most likely still have it, but might fall slightly short of the diagnostic criteria if I would go to check my diagnosis (I don't know the exact criteria though).

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05 Mar 2013, 10:34 am

I actually believe the majority of the people on this forum can pass as NT, just like me.
You don't have to work on NT communication per se. You've to break down your anxiety and procrastination.

For example: Try to say hi to everyone you meet.
At first this will be very hard, but it will become easier and easier.
Do some introspection, and spend some time to medidation.
Don't put yourself always down, but always take the positive side of what you accomplished.
For example: I said "Hi" to 10 people!
Celibrate your victory, and go to the next step.
You eventually meet so many new people that their is almost no chance that none will liek you, or your social skills are so good that eventually
people will jsut think you're some kinda social weird butterfly.

(My experience)

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05 Mar 2013, 10:39 am

Jessicella wrote:

Thanks. It's kind of weird calling myself a "neurotypical" though...

I think you would prefer to call yourself "Jessicella"...

Jessicella wrote:

It's just that my socialness (like I can "read inbetween the lines" so to speak a lot better than I used to as well as other things) isn't really autistic behavior. I mean, yeah I like my independence and solitude very very much but that can just be a personality trait.

Here's something else to ponder: Do you know how businesses are looking for people who can "think outside the box"?

You've actually been "outside the box"! You already have the kind of perspective that businesses are looking for!

Best o'Luck to ye!

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05 Mar 2013, 10:18 pm

paxfilosoof wrote:

procrastination? wow. nice, lovely.

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