Things that would make socializing predictable.

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If conversation was like reading music. Everyone sat down with a script like a music sheet and you knew which "part" you were playing and when it was your turn to speak / about what / in what tone / for how long and when it was time to finish / go ... and everything was predictable.

Is one topic supposed to naturally lead to another in conversation? Like someone says my dog got run over and some else says I had dog when I was younger and it got run over, etc? I often just say random things and change the topic.

Avoid crazy people as much as possible. No seriously I find it so draining to do anything with my brother/grandma because they both suffer from mental illness. Being told over and over again about their delusions and paranoia is not my favorite way of spending a night. And there's really no point talking if you know at least 50% of what they say are not true.

It's always easiest to be just yourself. I usually use an excuse and just wander off instead of listening to people's long ranting. They might think I'm odd, but then I am so that's just fine. If you're among friends and family, don't pretend to be social, you need to save that effort for the outside world.

*BTW it would be wonderful if everyone has taken communication classes and are considerate to other's needs, but many people I know don't have any conversation skill at all, they usually go ranting, pretend to listen, rant some more, get angry and argue. I've mostly given up trying to make things predictable. I just try to expect as little as possible.