Question for Male aspies.

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Not at all. I identify as agender and while I've had some nervousness about admitting to liking especially 'girly' stuff, like say My Little Pony, that faded very quickly. Pressure to conform to gender roles is just something I don't even notice for the most part, and it's definitely not something I pay much attention to.

Arguing about the R word is so cerebral palsy.

For a little while, particularly for a couple years in high school, I noticed how far short of the "masculine ideal" I fell on all sorts of levels. It messed me up a bit.

Luckily, I eventually started to notice ... I wouldn't call them heroes of mine or role models exactly, but just... People who were clearly quite masculine without being part of any of the stereotypes at all. Seeing that made me realize that the awful macho-bro-beer-sports version of masculinity isn't the only one that exists or matters. It's not a failure to not fit that particular mold.

I never cared for sports, cars and all that.
Still don't, and see no issue with it.

I don't try to be masculine. It just so happens that most of my interests are very (nerdy) male interests. Yes, I consider male nerds to often be masculine. Macho? No. Masculine? Yes.

I don't think liking cars is a purely masculine thing, I build and drive race cars and love it, not to appear as masculine or something(I paint my cars purple becouse thats the colour I like best) but becouse I like the rush driving one gives me and view the build and design of a quality race car is art and science combined, its also the only sport i'm decent at. I also tend to be attracted to cars I feel sorry for like AMC Gremlins or Pacers etc. and think little of most exotic sports/super cars. I have meny arts, culture intrests and personallity traits that go aganst my gender stereotypes and have been that way since birth, I do what I feel is natural and let my outer image form from there. I have been called a girl meny times by meny people. I greatly dislike these people who put on the tough guy act and try to rub it in, in reallity their often not tough at all.

I sometimes try to be masculine, but I'm not male.

This thread is soooo straight.

I do not think I have had this problem. Male identification and behavior is not something that is an issue for me.

My male friends are mostly interested in similar things as me, so I do not feel out of place regarding interests.

My problems have been more about personality conflicts, which seems to be related to my Aspie behavior.

Kinda yes but kinda no at the same time, I think its more likely to say I feel no need to flaunt my masculinity with displays. I find a lot of my "masculine" traits are really just kind of sensible rational stuff, like the need to protect your child etc. This can get your sexuality questioned by other guys A WHOLE LOT! It has changed for the better a little bit lately.

I've only ever been attracted to women ironically for all the times I've been called gay, just never had a thing for guys.

Hey I was secure or clueless enough to wear a pair of plain cotton panties when I had no clean boxers, my wife was ab-so-lute-ly horrified which I ended up finding hilarious. She never did forget to do her turn at the laundry after that though so hey, win win.

I was like hell I'm not turned on by it or anything, but you expected me to wear those rock hard jeans with no underwear?!

Into some of it, ie I like cars/machinery, played some fastpitch softball but otherwise all the sports I do are more individual vs team, I've been keeping fit lately but I can't be bothered to build a certain body type because its more masculine or macho or any of that bs. I don't follow any professional sports at all, just don't care for it. And more and more these days if I want to do something I care less and less what anyone else thinks about it or whether its age/gender appropriate. I don't have childish or feminine hobbies, but I wouldn't not do something because its not considered manly. I've also never really had anyone try to impose their typical guy stuff on me, either. I have enough in common with enough people for it not to be a problem.

Besides, so much of that macho manly crap is all just for show and keeping up appearances, anyways. One of the biggest "guy's guy" guys I know can be hypercompetitive macho etc, but one on one is a lot more sensitive and understanding vs being some gym rat bro sterotype. It seems a lot of this macho stuff is all just ritualistic social pecking order crap I can't be bothered to spend my time on - I just don't care, annnnd I'm ok with being different and having different interests.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

I've always mimicked the behavior traits of NT's, including being masculine. Not macho, just masculine. I never assimilated football though, because I decided it was too complex to waste my time on. How they keep track off all that stupid crap is beyond me. I wonder how many of them do so because it's expected of them.