Shutdowns: Usually in the workplace when I am facing pressures to accomplish a daunting task within a rushed timeframe. My brain freezes up. This also happens in social settings when a group discussion or conversation is more than I can keep up with. I used to think I had a hearing problem; now I know better.
Meltdowns: When I perceive that I am being personally or professionally bullied or some other form of perceived passive or active aggression. I am trying to develop non-verbal signals to let people know it is time for them to back off and step away. Usually standing, removing my glasses, and giving them a cold stare with an arched eyebrow gets the message across. Sort of a human equivalent of a soft warning dog growl. It is not the best way to handle the situation, but it is much better than a true meltdown verbal counterattack. Best case for me would be some form of healthy, positive self-advocacy, or at least just to excuse myself and walk away. Time will tell if I can train myself to do that more often.
24 Apr 2013, 10:08 pm
